New born struggle
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@Imogen no I wasn’t able to produce so she is on formula don’t know if I should change what stuff she is on
I was the same - hang in there it gets better!!! I was crying every night for 2 weeks! The nights seem so lonely cos no ones awake too. It will change soon!! Xxx
@Jay yeah I have I a lot of support my parents are retired so help out a lot and my partner is really supportive which makes me feel bad as I shouldn’t struggle if I have all this help.
I feel you, I felt like this last week when baby was almost 4 weeks but even a week on things are starting to feel better. I also felt guilty for feeling like I couldn’t wait for it to be over, the part that gets me is when I’m EXHAUSTED in the night and she will NOT BURP but I feel guilty putting her down without her burping 😭
Honestly I hate people that say enjoy every moment… because when you inevitably don’t it can make you feel like it’s you and you’re failing and makes it quite isolating. The newborn stage is the toughest!!! Every stage has its challenges/tough moments but newborn is HARD. And it’s the stage you are in peak postpartum recovery & on a hormonal rollercoaster. Of course there are some special/lovely moments and second time round I’m trying to appreciate them a little more but certainly not all and nothing compares to the first time with a newborn and the overwhelming struggle and some babies are just harder than others too. The sleep deprivation is so debilitating too. So enjoy the moments you can and otherwise it is survival mode. Better days and more joy & magic are coming! Every stage has been better with my girl.
I absolutely feel you! I have a 4 week old and ever since I brought her home it’s been hard. No, not the all 4 weeks but every day I catch myself thinking it. Worst parts are that people make you feel guilty with “enjoy, this won’t last long” and the guilt you feel cause you’re meant to be in some sort of euphoria which I haven’t reached. I find very hard adjusting of not working and not being busy with my day, being stuck between of cycle of nappy changes and burps , and feeling anxious of going out with her. She doesn’t much sleep on her own - she’ll sleep a great on one of us though so nights are tough. Hang in there ❤️
I had a lot of help too and I still felt awful some of the time. Night time can be so bad and lonely because nobody else is awake. I swear I felt like I was developing some anxiety and dreading wake windows at night because it was so overwhelming. You’re not alone x
Surviving not thriving is my motto for the newborn days. Would happily skip this part if I could, not afraid to say it x
Don't feel guilty. It's hard! And personally I enjoy the toddler stage much more. You've got that to look forward to :)
I say then is it depends on how much formula you are feeding little one. I’d look into if she is needing more formula and slowly introduce a bottle into her each day. For eg my boy at 3 weeks was on 120ml he was never satisfied and now he’s over 4 weeks he’s having 150ml. I started by offering one 150ml bottle at night so he had a sufficient amount and saw how long he stretched. Then introduced another one in the day. Eventually he’s now feeding 5x in 24hrs at 150ml. My boy was a heavy boy when born and is a hungry baby. You can also get hungry baby formula. Every baby is different tho. You’re doing amazingly!!
I feel you. My boy is 5 weeks and there are moments where I feel like this. I started to get quite delirious from lack of sleep. It’s really really tough. I hope you have a supportive partner and / or family around that can help. A couple of weeks ago out of desperation, I called my dad while my partner was at work who turned up a few hours later to take him off my hands so I could get 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep. It was the best. Hang in there. It’s so easy to spiral when you’re so sleep deprived. Drink lots of water and make sure you’re eating. No shame in uber eats if you need that dopamine hit.