Visitor rules

I’d love for you to share these when you have them, we are looking at putting boundaries in place but how we idea where to start!

I completely agree with boundaries. I will also be implementing all of these, and in addition to (even though there’s nothing wrong with my partners mum) there will be different boundaries for my family than his because of my own comfort levels

No kissing the baby (at least in the first weeks/months) would be a big one for me!

@Paulina how did I forget this! It’s always been the number one thing I’ve said from the start

Washing/sanitising hands before holding the baby if they’ve been out and about beforehand?🤔

I'm having no alcohol if you're visiting and want to see the baby. Long story behind this one. I'm also having the no visiting if unwell or been on a plane, no kissing hands or face until after first vaccines. No visiting for the first month. Hand washing And I will not be playing pass the baby. I'll offer if and when we're comfortable.

Don't kiss baby, some don't like people to wear perfumes as it takes away babies newborn smell.

I'm gad to see that I'm not the only one. I have the same rules (except the no judgement rule) plus these: - I don't want anyone to pick up or take the baby out of my hands without permission. - When the baby starts crying, they need to hand him/her back to me. - No changing nappies without permission. - When I need some space to breastfeed for example, I will go into the bedroom and I don't want anyone to follow me. - Smokers need to stay outside for a bit, so that they don't smell too much when they come back in. Also, they need to wash their hands even though they are not allowed to hold the baby. We are not planning to give them the set of rules when or before they arrive. It's more of a guideline for ourselves to know how we want to react in certain situations.

Looking at our rules now, I just realised how extra I am 😂 ✅ Wash your hands before going near newborn or Tiggy, there’s hand sanitiser too. 👠 In case you forgot or intend to forget, our home is strictly a no shoes home. 👎🏼 Do not visit if you or your kids are unwell, it’s really not fair on a newborns health. ❌ No kisses please, cold sores are no joke. 😒 No unsolicited advice please (unless I ask for it explicitly), I’m lucky enough to have mum & a village of aunties around me who’ve raised us strong 💪🏼 I’m a second time mum too 🤷🏻‍♀️ 🎁 I know this will sound rude, but please refrain from buying any unnecessary gifts, we have a toddler so had a lot from before & pretty much everything stocked in the second nursery as well. A donation to charity would be much appreciated 🫶🏻 🩵 Tiggy is now a big brother, please remember he is not to be made to feel second best at any point. Keep him involved during your visit please 😌 📸 Strictly no photography. We respect the privacy of both kids.

I'm not strict with visitors personally, just expect common sense from people so taking coats off washing and sanitising hands before touching baby if they've smoked right before walking in to wait 10/15 mins to have a hold and if they're ill or just got over a cold for no kisses x

- no kissing - please don't wear perfume - general hygiene i.e hand washing - we will invite you when we are ready, not the other way round - don't overstay your welcome or expect drinks. - don't come if you're ill - don't leave my first child out or made to feel unwelcome in their own home - ABSOLUTELY NO PHOTOGRAPHY, under any circumstances.

@Meis I feel exactly the same about yours, particularly the nappy one which people have found weird. I just want my baby’s privacy to be respected 😅

@Chandler For me it's not so much about baby's privacy, but about not wanting people to take over child care without my permission. I think especially at the beginning I will be pretty sensitive about these things.