Postpartum rage
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Hey where abouts are you in the UK? I would love to help you out. Do you have any other family support? Does your 2 year old go to nursery?
I feel you, I am getting angry at my toddler, she is hyper active and always needs me to be around, I can't do anything, she will be between my legs...is so hard to keep place clean to cook...my toddler always put place upside down...baby is just 7 weeks, not so demanding now compare to 7 month...but it is extremely hard with no village....I totally feel you xx
I’m afraid to reach out to my health visitor I don’t want to loose my babies all I want it for my partner and family to be more supportive and not try and one up me all the time my 2 year old goes to nursery two times a week half days so it isn’t much time and my 7 month old is just so clingy I don’t know what to do x
Have you spoken to the perinatal health team?
Hey I’m so sorry to hear that your going through that I hear you it must be hard with 2 very young children I agree you do need support maybe a therapist you sound like your on the edge you won’t lose your babies please get support mama you come first if ur not ok u won’t be able to look after your children sending u hugs and prayers please get help xx
I still get PP rage and my baby is almost 10 months!
the best thing you can do is be honest and reach out for help and exactly why. i live in sussex and we have an nhs service called health in mind which is a free counselling service that you can refer yourself to. i’ve suffered mentally since first diagnosed at 12, and have used them frequently over the years. one of the times i used them was when my son was 1 and a half/2 and i had been really struggling mentally, i hadn’t reached out for help yet i just struggled for weeks, then i was doing my sons nappy and i can’t remember what happened whether he was screaming or being difficult etc idk id struggled with him for a while, but i actually had it in my mind to shake him. i didnt, id never hurt him, but for a split second that was in my brain and i immediately placed my son on the floor and put in a referral for health in mind, and on the referral there was a notes box and i told them my thought i had that pushed me to self refer. they were so supportive and understanding xx
I have the same problem with my toddler and baby, my health visitor is lovely and has referred me to help at home where they send out a volunteer to come and help at your house a couple of times a week. They phone you to find out what you need and then they allocate someone who fits the bill e.g I need someone who will sit on the floor with my toddler and teach him to things. Might be worth while investigating. I was honest with my health visitor and explained the rage I feel and she said its very common and it will get better. It’s better to be honest a s all they want to do is help you and your family be happy. X
Please get in contact with your health visitor. Sometimes I think they are alot better than your GP in this sort of situation. They generally recommend you talk to the health visitor anyway & your health visitor will be their to support you through this time. It doesn't help that your partner is trying to make it a competition about who's more tired, trust me I know that feeling. But it will get better I promise! 🙂 No one knows how you feel inside except you!
Please please please get in touch with your GP or health visitor x They will assess the situation and give you options, e.g., talking therapies so that you can have someone else to talk to and listen without making it a competition or judging you. You're not alone in this, having two small children is hard and you are an amazing mum for recognising that you're struggling and not being afraid to admit that!