Does having a second one get easier?

My second was so much easier apart from the aches and pains 🤣 There is 8 years difference between my eldest and youngest. I was so much calmer with my second, had more nausea throughout but loved every minute. She was still overdue though by 10 days 🙄

I just had my second but my oldest is 6 years old. I had a super hard delivery and horrible PPD with my first and with my second, the delivery was SO easy and so far the adjustment has been pretty smooth and I feel like it’s easier because it’s not as new, you have somewhat of an idea of what to expect! Obviously not every baby is the same, so there will be curveballs thrown at you, but I do think it’s a little easier with the second!

I feel this post so much.

My first is 12 years old and I just had my second 2 months ago at 32. My second pregnancy was not any easier but the newborn stage is. I think that is only because I actually have a supportive husband this time that didn't purposely volunteer to deploy the month I was due.

It’s easier and harder. I am a more confident mother with experience under my belt, but there is a lot more mental jumping from the needs of one to another.

My pregnancy second time round was easy just as the first - however he’s the second child and he’s totally different to my eldest who is 12 😅 he’s been harder because he doesn’t sleep unlike my first, he also had feeding troubles etc which made things really difficult for us but I’ve enjoyed it much more this time around but our circumstances are totally different too xx

I just had my 3rd weeks before my 33rd birthday and honestly all of my pregnancies were pretty similar and labor/birth was faster each time and with way less pushing.

I do feel like subsequent children are easier in the sense that you are more confident in your parenting, but they're still babies/toddlers, therefore still difficult!

As a FTM at 38, there is no way in hell I'm doing this again. All the power to y'all. I love having a sister so the guilt eats me a lot but my sanity is more important imo.

100% their bond is the best thing ever, I have 2 boys, 5 years and 14 months. At first it's a struggle and takes a few months to get into a routine but I love being a mum to 2. I am done now I always wanted 2 children, both my husband and I are only children and I felt so alone growing up and still do. I don't have many friends but the friends I do have all have siblings and they have that other person in their life they can depend on no matter what and I've never had that. I love that my boys will always have each other xx

I had my first at 28, I didn’t like being pregnant then. I was very confident in being a FTM. Then I had my second at 35, I HATED being pregnant. I was so drained, I would cry from being uncomfortable a lot. It was the worse. I am weirdly NOT confident in my parenting with this one. They are 7 years apart, and drive me absolutely crazy together. Separately it is so much easier.

We have a 13 mo old, we're 33&36, and I'm 4 mo pregnant. I know I'll be a wreck a year from now but it'll be worth it. I see my husband's relationship with his sister and it's something I had always wanted and never had as an only child. And I'm pregnant anyway, so 🤷

I am 9 weeks into being a mommy of two. I have a 5 yr old. The second pregnancy was harder as was labor for me. Although I know the reverse scenario is often the case I absolutely will never want a 3rd child due to my labor experience. BUT I am so so so happy I finally have given my daughter a sibling. Also, I have postpartum anxiety this go around didn’t have it with my daughter. BUT still with my son - my family now feels complete. Hubby and I went back and forth a few times on whether to give my daughter a sibling. So happy we did!

I was a FTM at 34 and would also consider myself to be a high achiever. I'm one and done. I don't think it's a necessity for a child to have siblings so I wouldn't put pressure or guilt on yourself for not wanting to have another baby. Your daughter is not alone, she has you, and you can help her build a strong network of friends around her. It's a huge responsibility to have another child so I'd make the choice based on what you think is right for you and not based on the perception that your child is alone if they're an only child. If siblings are close to one another then yes, it can be a massive benefit, but there are plenty of cases where siblings can't stand one another and not close at all. On the flip side, I've been told that if you don't have another child you might regret it later in life, however it's very rare to regret having a child once they're here! Xx

I agree I have 3 daughters and number 2 was easy and they all love each other

There's 10 years difference with my 2. Both my daughters were quite difficult babies (silent reflux/colic).. every baby is completely different, so it's hard to say. My eldest is so good with my 2 month old.

This is how I felt with my first, but I have two now and the first couple months adjusting was hard. But after it was easier bc you already know what to do. I would say the first 1-6 months was hard bc you’re not used to being pulled in both directions. My mom and grandma came out to help me for a couple weeks so my first born wasn’t feeling like he was being left out which I think helped with his transition. My kids are 4 and 2 now and they fight sometimes but they also are super sweet together.

For me no it’s not easier. They’re driving me crazy on the daily. So bad I’ve thought of checking myself into a mental institution 😂🤣😂🤣😂😂 I have a toddler and a 6 month old. Nighttime is absolutely terrible bc my toddler wants me in the bed with him then the baby starts crying. Soon as I get up to get her situated the toddler cries. So I’m back and forth, back and forth several times until they finally get tired enough to fall asleep after a hour or 2 of this. I’m so over it 😂 my toddler was a wonderful baby and didn’t have any sleeping issues. This baby is absolutely terrible when it comes to sleep. She’s always screaming even when there’s nothing to scream about. Still waking up 3-4 times a night and won’t even eat all of her bottle. It’s just ridiculous. Save your sanity and don’t do it 😂 but ultimately it’s up to you. Not every child is the same.

My first pregnancy/birth was smooth just what u could wish for. Second time around pregnancy was okay more stressful as I had a toddler to run after etc but the birth was horrendous. I had an induction second time around so was completely different experience however I think the reason I was more affected this time around was because I went into it with high expectations thinking it would be a similar experience to my first oh was I dululu 😂 but that being said he’s an easy baby and surprisingly less stressful this time around and more confidence. But still has its challenges as I have 2 under 3 and it is difficult but so worth it 🫶🏻

For us it got way harder. The jump from 0 to 1 kid was nothing like 1 to 2 kids, we weren’t prepared for that. I’d only have one of you really feel it’s the right thing for you given how you feel. Similar goals-driven family here too and it really has hit the fan! 😅

My labour was definitely much easier 2nd time, pregnancy overall I found harder mostly because I didn't have time to rest as much because I had a toddler to look after. Looking after 2 children I think was both easier and harder. Easier in that I knew what to expect from a baby and wasn't worried about every tiny thing, but harder because I had to learn how to do all the baby stuff whilst also looking after a toddler. When they both need something at the same time (which is often ime) it can be really tough. However, I do think that's only for the first few years, once they're a bit more independent I think it gets easier

It really depends on the individual situation. I know many people say going from 0-1 is the hardest transition, but going from 1-2 was harder for me. It’s a little easier now because they’re 3 & almost 5 & entertain each other, so I can get stuff done.