Relationship in shambles
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@Jen i absolutely agree, relationships only work if both put in the effort. Although my husband is helping me beyond his capacity but at times he says things like why are you being so moody or emotional and that triggers me so much and overwhelms me with so many emotions. It makes me snap back because these comments make me feel like he doesn’t understand me at all or what I am going through.
Yeah that's not helpful...sadly even the most well intentioned men don't understand what it does to our bodies and minds hormonally to not only give birth but to feel so responsible for this new life maternally...that's why I encourage you to put as many women in your circle as possible and also gently explain to him how you feel. Maybe even see a doctor and or therapist. I see one and it keeps me so much more sane and I'm two years in to motherhood! You got this remember it's a journey not a destination
The first 6 months are really hard, on any relationship. Give yourself and him some grace and focus on that beautiful baby and taking care of yourself as best as possible rn. That's most important. You also have to try and express your needs from a calm place, not a heated one. And find a support system, don't expect your husband to fill every need you have rn, put more women in your life. Just try and keep the communication simple and calm if it gets too heated best to drop it in the moment and revisit. You don't need that added stress rn! But I do need to add you have to give something...he can't give all he will always fall short in your eyes otherwise. Little things to start but don't forget the love you have is still there, just clouded by stress and redirected towards this beautiful miracle you both have!