Parenting styles

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One thing that is helping us was just coming to terms that she will have 2 different point of views to choose from. She’ll get the stricter side from me and the more laid back with her dad. That realization that she can eventually choose really helped us

Can you cater to each of your strengths? Like the more patient parent can set up activities or step up during tantrums more and the laid back parent can supervise autonomous play or encourage learning activities or take them to the park?

Our strategy is to make note of how the other handled a situation that made us feel uncomfortable. Then we have conversations after the kiddos are either asleep or no longer in the room. We are not criticizing the other parent's choices just voicing the parts we were uncomfortable with. Then we come up with a way to handle the situation that works for both of us and both do that moving forward. Does it take time to adjust yes? Does every solution we come up with work the first time without further adjustments, no! We are constantly communicating and making adjustments as a team so that kiddo has consistency. We found even the tiny things we did differently during kiddos nap and bedtime routines impacted their sleep. It took us a month to find a routine we both felt comfortable with and worked for our kiddo! Without consistency your child will choose what they want which is not always what is best for them. At that point you're no longer instilling your joint values in your child, instead they run the house

We compromised and now we’re doing it my way lol

Get on the same page somehow... they will start to favor the parent that is their friend over the parent that is their parent 😔

We cope by me doing most of the parenting/caretaking. It's really draining on me, but I made this choice bc I didn't like how he parented. It's not my place to tell him how to parent so at the end of the day if I don't like it then I have to do it myself 🤷‍♀️

I do most of the parenting. If your bd can't handle a tantrum, sometimes, it's the parent that needs a time out...