Cold sores…

My partner gets cold sores and doesn’t kiss our 2 year old so definitely wouldn’t our 4 month okd. My 2 year old & him will kiss more on the cheek or each others forehead/ head they have kinda done that themselves. I personally don’t really like anyone else kissing them on the lips anyway in general cold sore or not but that’s personal preference. X

I should probably add I don’t mean kissing on the lips - just kissing on the cheek or head as you say x

And he means he wouldn’t want them kissing him anywhere, ever!

Oh sorry, yeah I don’t think there is any harm in cheek or head my family kiss mine on their head or cheek and that’s with no cold sores. So I assuming he just wants them to hug them but no kissing? X

I’ve got a no kissing rule too, cold sore or not. Only me and dad kiss on head or cheek no lips. We just prefer to not take the risk but don’t get me wrong his entire family don’t like me for it x

@Danielle exactly! Xx

I do get cold sores in the winter months, and I obviously do not kiss my baby when I feel run down (which is when I get cold sores), I’ll in any way or having an active outbreak. Of course I’m motivated to keep my baby healthy and I would never want him to get cold sores- they’re an absolute pain and obviously dangerous to small people. I also never kiss him on the lips- even if I didn’t get cold sores, it gives me the ick 😅 if I kiss his cheeks, I kiss high up (again, if I’m healthy and well only). Surprisingly, my family and Nick’s have had no issues with the no kissing rule, even if they have to remind themselves (the amount of times I’ve walked into the room with someone holding him and saying something like “I love you so much, but don’t kiss the baby“ etc. You could suggest that they kiss baby on the back of the head- again assuming healthy and well. But ultimately you need not make allowances or compromises on this issue- you have every right to dictate here. X

I think I just can’t imagine a scenario where his nanna and auntie don’t get to kiss him (agreed were a kiss cheek family anyway not lips) until he’s years and years old?? Xx

As long as you can trust them to be careful, to know what triggers their outbreaks, know when a cold sore is coming and maybe wait until his 12 month vaccinations, then it should be as safe as it’s going to get 💙 x

I sadly get coldsores and hate them. My Mam also does. She did pass them onto me when I was younger. I never kiss my toddler or baby on the lips for this reason but I couldn’t imagine never kissing them at all. We both use compeed patches when we have an active breakout and obviously wouldn’t kiss them during this time. My toddler knows when I have a ‘poorly lip’😩 I even booked a GP appointment with my first baby as I was so anxious when I had one. But the doctor reassured me that they are most contagious when ruptured and that as long as I kept it covered and wasn’t actively kissing my baby until it was healed, it would be fine. He reminded me that most adults carry the virus that causes cold sores even if they’ve never had symptoms x