Can’t put baby down

Have you got a carrier/sling? My 6 week old is exactly the same so I've had to start putting him in the carrier to get anything done!

This is my 4 week old. She gets overtired and then won’t settle anywhere but on me. I have a sling now, best invention ever she gets into a deep sleep and then I can pop her down

Thanks both I have just ordered one from vinted, I hope it helps. This is the hardest thing in the world :(

Same for me, will not tolerate being put down anywhere apart from the pram when walking and also needs to contact nap. So tiring 😥 I am going to start putting her in the carrier so I can actually get things done! X

Sling is a lifesaver! There's a babywearing group on FB you can join to show you how to position baby safely in it so it's nice and comfy for you both 🤗

Hello! I just wanted to start off by saying I know it’s so hard when your baby doesn’t like to be put down but what I try to remind myself is that little newborns only feel safe and secure with us 🩷 they are designed to be held pretty much all the time! 100% try her in a sling and how you get on! It’s also important to remember that it’s really okay to let baby cry whilst you go for a wee or eat and drink or take a moment for yourself, crying at this age is developmental and it’s just what they do try not to be so hard on yourself and know that this is normal, you’re baby will be fine for a moment whilst you take a minute for yourself 🩷

My boy is 4 weeks old and similar (started off ok the first 2 weeks but gotten worse), my girl was even worse. Total koala babies and so much crying/screaming/colic/wind/reflux. A carrier is an absolute must! It’s ok to also put them down somewhere safe for 5/10mins even if crying. It won’t harm them and sometimes you need the toilet or to eat or a breather - that is ok. It is the hardest thing ever but also here to say it will pass. My girl was an awful newborn - just so many things against us from feeding issues, not sleeping, colic/screaming etc. but 3+ months it started to get better snd from 5+ months we had better sleep and a lot more joy in our day. She was an early mover and that made her a lot more happier too. She actually rarely cried after then too snd even now as a toddler she is so much fun even with the chaos. Continued…

Everyone used to tell me things were a phase and it is hard to believe until you’ve been through it yourself and it’s the only thing getting me through now and even then there are breaking points. But it will be a phase and it will get better. Also if I could go back to my previous self as a FTM I would say that genuinely all those important things I felt I needed to do aren’t that important and can wait. But I also totally get sometimes you just need a bit of escapism even if that is chores. But honestly try and surrender to it a little more because it won’t be like this forever, there may be even parts you end up missing like a contact nap. Get a good tv series going, podcasts, music and dance your way through. Get that carrier and get outside for walks etc. Do as much as you can for yourself with baby on you to get you through. There are no bad habits either. Get whatever support you can, adapt/surrender to it and it will pass. You’ve got this!

Thanks everyone it does help to hear this. I will look forward to the phase ending, but *try* to enjoy the current moment at the same time. I am guilty of always wishing time away!

My son started this at 3.5 weeks too! I've found hes not too bad in the pushchair x

My 5 week old won't be put down either and has been like this since birth. He also breastfeeds very frequently during the day. I do a lot of things one handed- I learnt the art of going to the toilet with a baby in my arms with my first son 🙈😅. But also, like others I've been using a baby carrier to at least get some things done like making food etc. I do find also he sleeps the best by far in the carrier so it does give me a longer break from breastfeeding. I then also make the most of the time when my partner is available in the morning and evenings to get things done I need to or do some things for myself. Though he will only tolerate being held by his dad for so long. This is my second so I do have hope and experience to know that this phase will pass and things will get easier. Though I totally understand how frustrating and restrictive it is not being able to get that time.

Mine is the same and I really need help with the night times .. I don’t mind always having him in the day on me, but what do you do during the night, when they won’t go in the crib?? X