How do we all make time for ourself

such a beautiful baby😍 mom this is totally normal the first few months navigating motherhood. if you don’t already, try establishing a routine for you and babygirl that way when she’s napping either during the day you can try to find that time to get in a bath, or even doing a little makeup routine. Something that helps you feel better. it gets better keep going❤️

Give yourself time hun honestly your not alone in this. I shower with 2 children. The way I do it is I put the baby in his chair and give my LG toys to play with whilst I shower. Hair gets washed once a week when I can. And I tend to get dressed when I dress them so once they are dressed again I put baby in his chair and get my LG to help me pick an outfit for the day make it fun. But honestly your not alone I remember there were days where I'd walk round with sick on my pj's hair in a bobble and I looked like I'd not slept in days. But honestly as soon as babies in routine and able to out down the easier it gets.. You got this ❤️

Congratulations on your adorable little chunk! I struggle to make time for myself too. What you are going through is very normal!! I’m making an effort to shower everyday, even if its a speed shower. Do a mini skincare routine. Change into day clothes.

@Cierra she’s in a sleep routine but when she’s asleep I have no energy or a spend that time cleaning the house 😭

@Saryah this is so relatable! but rest assured it absolutely does get easier & better! be patient with yourself and take your time mama.

Hi, your little girl is gorgeous! I had a bit of an emotional day last week over the fact I never get time to make myself look presentable. I actually got my hair cut short (not recommending just needed to do it) it’s meant that I have to brush and sometimes straighten it and make time for that. I put my daughter on a play at while I shower and use a carrier while I sort my hair and sometimes make up. Luckily my partner is good at making sure she’s fed and dressed while I shower or get ready on days that he has time. I tended to be too exhausted to bother before recently but decided I needed to make the effort so I can feel human and not just a mum. It’s definitely not easy but you feel better for making the effort. Hopefully you get the chance/energy to take care of yourself 🤩 x

I have two kids and I honestly can say that I give myself a pat on the back on days I actually get to shower and brush my hair 😭😩 I guess just take your time and buy a playpen. Saved me when I needed to do something away from my toddler

I have a really quick shower either before my husband goes out to work - he can look after baby for 10 mins, or when kids are asleep. I don't watch tv at night - so this is something I prioritise. Are you a single mum? Otherwise you really should have support for basic self care.

Do you have any family who can help? I'm a single mum and get that finding time is HARD! When my baby naps it's like okay do I do the dishes, try shower before she wakes up or take 5 mins to breathe and its really hard but I have had to come to terms with not everything will get done every day. Some days the dishes might not get done, it bothers me but I need to look after me too and I make sure they're done the next day. Today I got really overwhelmed and had to call my dad and ask him to look after my daughter for an hour so I could go to the gym, have an hour alone and breathe i felt like I failed having to call in reinforcements but the saying it takes a village is very true and it's okay to lean on people even if it's hard. If you do have people who can help please reach out. Also I know they so no screen time before 2 but there are days where I need to shower and if that can keep her quiet, occupied and in a safe place for long enough for me to do that, then that's what I'll do.

Also at that kind of age I'd bring her into the bathroom laid in a lounger or in her swing and have some music playing and let her watch me shower and sometimes that worked just fine too as long as she could see me (she had to be in a pretty good mood already for that to work though). It can also be good to try get some things done while she's awake cleaning wise so you don't have to spend all of your time while she's asleep doing it and can have some down time. Baby wearing, moving the swing around the house or her piano kick playmat (highly reccomend getting one if you don't have one it kept my baby occupied for ages before she got on the move) to where I needed to be so she's nearby but you can still do things helped massively. But overall it's normal and we all struggle with it but do try look after you too 🩷

This is gonna sound like wild advice but I’m disabled and that gives me a unique perspective, disabled people have to use different hacks to manage our energy (we call it our spoons) so we can be as productive as need be while still taking care of ourselves/bodies. Some of these hacks include having quick easy to put together outfits, sitting in the shower (shower chair), finding quick protective hairstyles that can last a few days/look nice when undone, having disposable toothbrush’s if it gets so bad we can’t make it to the sink, lume hygiene wipes if unable to make it to the shower, sitting in a chair while cooking/prepping, using accommodating tools so those little choppers for vegetables for example that way you don’t have to bust out a cutting board, doing one pot meals so there’s less cleanup/prep, rolling laundry carts (you’d be surprised how much energy hauling laundry is), lightweight vacuum if you have carpet, mop shoes a rolly chair and spray if you have hard wood.

General Rules of Energy & time management kind of go like this Step one write out tasks you need to get done (you can do this laying in bed on the phone) ask yourself -can I do any of the tasks sitting -if the task is worth doing all the way it’s worth doing at least halfway how can I halfway do the task -is there any way to accommodate my exhaustion -what are some creative solutions to make these tasks more accessible -how can I support my body to prevent exhaustion (pain rubs/lotions, body braces/light abdominal support, and energizing breathwork) -give yourself grace it takes time to master and not everything will get done sometimes you have to gauge how much energy you’ve estimated and reconfigure the schedule in which you get your tasks done.

Everyone has this issue. It gets better as they get older. It helps if you have help at home from family or friends. Take quick showers or take when she’s in bed. But honestly I didn’t take care of myself properly until she was like 17 months 😬

Listen mama your doing awesome!! Your baby looks happy and healthy that's all that matters! Try not to stress about your looks yes I know us woman we always do! But you just created a whole human being!! Take time to enjoy her! Trust it goes fast. I have 3 girls. Maybe try small. Little steps. What I always try to do in morning and I mean try is take a shower so you at least feel somewhat clean and refreshed. But your baby is not worried about how you look your her world her everything ✨️ even with the messy hair. I'll a few days without shaving I just wear long sweats Idc lol. Don't stress yourself over this mama you got this!

Ppl who have time for themselves have villages or means to get help via money. If you have neither then the hard truth is that you don't get any time to yourself.

@Saryah sometimes you need to leave the house cleaning for another nap/time and prioritize yourself! I find it hard to do anything now and I have a 13 month old 🥲

I started showering with my son when he was about 8 months old. I would just hold him and switch arms. He is 21 months now and most of the time he stands at my feet and plays with bath toys while I shower. But you are not alone. Finding time for myself is incredibly hard. I am a single mom with a velcro baby so I only get a few hours in the evening when he goes to bed. He always looks nice but now that he is getting older we play “get ready” together so we both look nice now.

@Helena totally understand this one except my daughter a mummy’s girl and breastfed so she’s really clingy to me she loves her dad but only for a a little while

@Olivia no I have a partner butt girl is such a mummas girl and it’s like she can sense when I want to eat or shower

@everyone thankyou all for the advise and motivation and letting my know it totally normal time management is something we’ll work on x

This is an unpopular opinion but Honestly sometimes you are just going to have to let her cry. I put my baby on her show she’s interested in it for like 5 minutes and then she’s crying and by that time im just getting out the shower. So she cries for a little until Im able to get her. You have to take care of yourself to be able to take care of her. If shes fed changed and had a nap and you need to eat its okay for her to cry for a few minutes while you put something on your stomach. My baby is 11 months now and shes fine she still loves me.

I do it after baby is asleep! Even if I have to stay up kind of late