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Post natal depression - 7 years on!

A long shot, but I wondered if anyone on this group had a baby back in 2018, and suffered PND? I was a single parent back then, “Dad” has NEVER been involved, and it really took a toll on my mental health at the time, but also impacted mine and my babies relationship at the time, and now I’m feeling like it has impacted our relationship, even 7 years on, despite being in a new relationship and having had another child with my partner that I’m with now. My partner came into our lives a couple of years ago, and has fully accepted my first born with open arms, but lately, my eldest has been hard work, and isn’t communicating with us very well, instead, it’s a case of showing violence, frustration and upset, rather than sharing what’s going on or asking for help. The other day, they felt that they couldn’t even tell me it was non school uniform day at school, when I’d clearly forgotten myself. Luckily my partner reminded me, but my eldest didn’t feel comfortable telling me and it really upset me knowing that. I can’t help but feel that my PND in the early days, affected our relationship as mother and baby, and that we just don’t have the close relationship that I wish we had. I feel so bad saying it all out loud, but I’m wondering if anyone can relate, and advise on anything that I can do to try to help improve things?

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Hello! I had my daughter December 18 and my situation is soo similar to yours! You can message me to chat if you like x

I can relate, I didn’t know my now 6yr old boy has ASD and ADHD at the time and went on to have my second son when my eldest was 2. I always felt like my eldest took up all my time. I was then struck with PND and I didn’t like the way things were and how my life was so me and my partner decided to do 1-1 time with the children at separate times and it helped massively and now we are able to have family holiday, days out all together and all is well .. Try do 1-1 time days out and rebuild that relationship xx

@Tanya thankyou for sharing! I did wonder whether 1-1 time may help! I think I need to really work hard to rebuild the relationship with my eldest and show him that he means the world to me. I just want him to be able to open up to me, and not feel so worried about doing that. It’s such a horrible feeling 😢

No need to thank me 🥰 I’m so sorry your going through this but I completely understand you! 💐 your doing amazing! Try 1-1 and do days out and rebuild that relationship. You will see progression and he will be more comfortable to open up. Trampoline park, laxer tag together, bowling, anything that makes you talk and gain trust and rebuild! You can do this your strong! Try it and if not we can go back to the drawing board and think of something else xx

I have birth December 18 and had a severe case of PND I can relate . Things do get better . Message me if you want to chat x

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