Annoyed AF when other people hold my baby… especially my MIL

I was 100% this way, but my MIL was very overbearing and sometimes made me feel as though I was carrying her daughter, so it made me resent her. We no longer have contact however you’re not alone !

@Cody same!!! I literally kind of snapped at my mil and told her she was overbearing about a week after I gave birth. It just feels good to know I’m not alone ! 🙏🏽

Same thing happened to me. I went on holiday when my son was 2 months (he’s now 4 months) and anything I did in my MIL opinion was completely wrong and she wanted me to do it her way which was so annoying and I couldn’t wait to come back home 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

I feel the exact same way but I think it truly is MIL’s actions that cause this. Throughout pregnancy she kept making comments that if my spouse was unable to be in the delivery room she could step in (respectfully NO). She now uses language like “my baby” or “she wants Grammy” and no one else in the entire family talks like that so it drives me absolute bonkers. Whenever we are there she basically hogs baby and then we are like oh we need to go and she’s like well so and so didn’t get a turn yet and it’s like yeah I wonder why?! Oh just to add that she made a Facebook post announcing my birth before I was out of the recovery room 🙃 why is it always the MIL lol

@Taelor you’re never alone lovely! Theres always someone somewhere who understands you🩷

I had a really similar experience with both of my babies it’s totally normal! I trusted my mom to care for me and my babies so I was able to sleep deeply and rest when she cared for my kids. But when my mil does it makes me feel like I have spiders under my skin it’s so physically uncomfortable. It feels nearly primal in a way I can’t fully explain it

Ugh same I hate my mil 🙃

Girl SAME. I’m deathly afraid of leaving baby alone with my MIL. Even her holding the baby sent me panicking for weeks before she came to visit. Granted she drinks from morning to night and is just strange overall… The comments she makes are basically like the baby gets everything from her son (my husband) and how great he is. But she completely disregards me. Thank goodness for our own moms!

Same but it was because she wasn't really supporting his neck well and he was barely 2 weeks old and she'd say "I know what im doing" (she had 5 kids) plus she was stick on old fashioned ways saying I should put vicks vapor rub on his chest a newborns chest she's insane and suggested adding cereal to his bottle and giving him water even commented on the type of pacifiers he was using saying she needs to get him the old fashioned ones... thankfully we love in Texas and she lives in Michigan so I only had to deal with it for 2 weeks then I made sure my partner got her back on the plane because she was about to drive me insane and I was starting to lose my cool

Omg reading this comments made me feel so thankful for my MIL. She’s just amazing and I couldn’t imagine having my baby without her support 🩷

You are def not alone mama! It gets better, follow your heart

Same situation and we are living with my boyfriends parents as we just moved back from Australia and unable to afford our own place just now…..Baby is due next week and she’s planning what we going to do over Easter even tho she will be only 2 weeks old (if she’s born on her due date) my partner has to be on call over Easter as his dad is going away so I will be stuck with her in the house. I have told her respectfully I don’t want to make plans and she should make her own but I know she will just be hounding me and I just won’t want to leave the room and I’m terrified I’m going to lose it with her. So stressful 😣

The earlier you put boundaries with her the better because as your baby gets older the worse it's gonna get ugh 😑 I definitely had some issues with my MIL during the planning of the baby shower she was trying to live through me and act like she was the mom to be! Yuk

I felt the same. It's actually a very mammal primary behavior. Small babies needs their mamas and most mamas have a very protective instinct and that instinct says baby is safer with mom. That's actually very normal and that's why I didn't let anyone (except my husband), taking my baby from me the first 6 weeks. And after that, just a few people and not a long time. It ease with time

@Claire omg girl I feel your pain ! My MIL came to the hospital right away… I didn’t want her there I would have preferred just me my mom and my man… anyways, mil was waiting downstairs and my mom felt bad and invited her in the delivery room 🙄 mil made a pregnancy announcement while we were out to eat at dinner to their family without my knowledge or consent ! And yesterday I told her when she referred to my son as my baby.. I said MY BABY your grandson, you do understand That right? Cuz ugh I just can’t lol I feel bad but I also know if I hold things in ill explode and that won’t be good for anyone

@Ari literally physically uncomfortable. You explained it perfectly. 🙏🏽🩷

@Kendall yes thank goodness for our moms is right! Please don’t be afraid to set those boundaries!!