Just tell him he can't help with it and it's your issue to solve. Men are problem solvers by nature and will try to help you even if the solution isn't possible. It's an ego thing
Good luck giving yourself more love
Its literally in name “self” esteem nobody else is charge of that. His job is to make you feel safe and secure in the relationship and if he does let him know that.
Important thing to note, I am in therapy. I'm trying to work through all my problems. Tonight has just been a rough night