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@Melissa omg I’m glad I’m not the only one! I kind of feel bad sometimes for feeling annoyed as I know it’s just through excitement but it’s just so rude! It’s quite dismissive of everything we have gone through to bring them into the world! I feel like my baby could fart and my MIL would say “my son did that as a baby, she gets it from him” 🙈x
Honestly, my baby is 5 weeks and I get it everytime my in laws visit us. I do moan to my partner about it, but he hasn’t mentioned it to them.
@Melissa oh isn’t it a nightmare. My baby is 7 weeks old and I thought it would have eased off by now but it’s getting worse. I don’t think it helps that she actually does look like him. I haven’t said anything to my partner either because I didn’t want to make things awkward or seem like I’m being petty.
Maybe find some baby photos of you and get them out for next time they visit! I think that’s what I’m going to do x
@Melissa I will have to find some and try that! Babies appearances change that much anyway so she could completely change as she gets older.
I read somewhere that this is an evolutionary thing, so women from both families will literally see the baby more like the father in the first few months and say things to convince the parents of that so that the father doesn't reject the child. I don't know if that's whats happening with you guys/if you usually get on well with MIL but it could be worth considering
My partner's family are like this with my first son. It really annoyed me at first but I just ignore it now, I don't think it's intended to insult me in their case and I guess they didn't know me when I was younger so only have the experience of my partner to draw on. We still get the comments now and my son is 3 years old so I don't think they will stop.
@Chloe I have also read this too, and that it is common for babies to look like their father in the first few months. Babies change a lot in the first couple of years and different genes are activated at different times so she could look completely different in years to come. In all honesty, I don’t mind who she looks like as long as she is happy and healthy and has strong relationships.
@Jess yeah I am hoping as time goes on I will just learn to let it go, or they might reduce somewhat because it’s constant at the moment. It’s probably heightened because it’s so early and hormones are everywhere. I definitely don’t think it’s meant to offend and I do get on with her aside from this.
People seem to think my boys look like me when they put on weight and then like my husband when they have a growth spurt and thin out 🤣🤣🤣. Ahaha your baby is 50% you and 50% your partner and it doesn't matter what anyone says she is your little girl 🤗. It's hard to ignore comments though especially this early on!
Mine is the exact same 🤣 I just let it go
Omg I could have written this! It’s really annoying. I just keep quiet, but think I’ll have to speak up next time. I don’t think they mean any harm by it, but it’s really hard when we’re the ones who carried the baby for 9 months!