Can being a mom be peaceful and does it have to be stressful?

So my boyfriend is being pessimistic about the whole thing and he said your pregnant you will never have a peace again in your life and that kinda made me feel depressed a little bit I just really need some reassurance and someone to talk to and yk vent
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There are times that are peaceful, when your kids are sleeping for example šŸ˜‚ and other times when theyā€™re playing nicely or being really loving to you. But a lot of the time it is stressful and chaotic and you have to learn as you go- no one is the perfect parent from day 1 because youā€™ve never done it before. If you can be relaxed about things and go with the flow then yeah it can be peaceful. Thereā€™s no better feeling than your kid looking at you and saying ā€˜I love you mommyā€™ šŸ„°

Sounds like you need a strong word with your boyfriend. There are definitely occasions that are stressful. Which happen more when others aren't supportive. There are definitely occasions that are peaceful.

Idk, I mean I have all the support in the world, and access to all the help I need and I still wouldnā€™t say my life is peaceful majority of the time. Thereā€™s definitely joy and fun in the stress though.

Parenthood is filled with ups and downs. No one on earth is born knowing how to be a parent, you learn as they grow. It is most definitely stressful and the moments of peace come and go but is it worth it? yes. Is the unconditional love from child to parent and parent to child worth it all? yes. Seeing those tiny humans happy is worth it all, but it is not all rainbows and roses. Parenthood is a roller coaster but they are worth it.šŸ«¶šŸ½

I do think that it can be peaceful, absolutely. I think that this ideology is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I think thereā€™s a difference between like ā€œpeace in your heartā€ lol that sounds cheesy but as opposed to ā€œpeace and quiet.ā€ The latter can be hard to come by as a parent of young kids. The former can absolutely happen I think.

Honestly for me the first 4 months were pure chaos but as she's gotten older it's pure bliss. She's 11 months now and I love every single day. It takes some time to adjust but once you find a good routine for your family you'll love it. The best thing I ever heard in terms of parenting was this, "they're not giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time" and it made all the hard moments so much easier to deal with.

I think the bottom line is children arenā€™t peacefulā€¦ but parenthood is filled with ups and downs and beautiful moments that will make your heart burst along with the moments that are complete chaos and overwhelming. I heard someone say - itā€™s the hardest but the best thing Iā€™ve ever done/ gone through which sums it up! There is also constantly different phases you will got through with different ages. Some more enjoyable than others. Itā€™s so so so worth it ā¤ļø

Iā€™m a new mum, my little girl is almost 4 months old and she is the most perfect baby. I do my absolute best to always be calm around her so she doesnā€™t feel those anxious and stressed vibes. We have started to have a few upset evenings due to fighting sleep but nothing that I canā€™t handle. Honestly, babies feed off of our energy so I would suggest keeping calm and keeping it together when around them. Iā€™m also a single mum doing it on my own with a stressful relationship with her father so do my best for it not to affect her.

Currently sat watching telly with my husband eating galaxy while little man is snoozing upstairs. Feels pretty peaceful to me šŸ„°šŸ„° Also, even in the chaos those smiles and laughs and cheeky faces make it all so much fun and worth it xxxx Ps. It's not my baby that stresses me out most of the time, it's other people šŸ¤£

Life is stressful it doesn't have to be because of kids. To be honest I feel most calm when I am with my daughter, don't get me wrong there are times I could pull my hair out, and times I am relieved it's bed time, but peaceful and stress are different for everyone

I was where you are. I even debated whether I should have children because I knew it was a big commitment. Thereā€™s nothing like the peace you feel when you see your baby on the ultrasound, hold them in your arms for the first time, or the hundredth, or the thousandth. My daughter is unwell and was screaming uncontrollably earlier today, ten minutes later she was snuggled up and falling asleep on me. There are stressful moments, and minutes where you wonder if you will ever be able to get ahead again, but thereā€™s also extreme joy of watching your child discover the world and learn how to be a human. Itā€™s only hard for parents that are invested in parenting, but itā€™s so worth it - and it is fun if you want it to be!

As they get older you get plenty of peace and quiet. My daughter was very independent and kept herself occupied since she was little playing with Montessori things, sheā€™s a biiiig sleeper (like 9 pm to 11 am if I let her), so after like 2 years old sleep and early mornings where same as before kids. Itā€™s totally dependent on your childā€™s personality, but no, I miss my kiddo when she occupies herself for too long. Iā€™m not lacking in peace and quiet from her at all.

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