Husband doesn’t speak to our children kindly.

My husband and I have a 1 year old and an *almost* 3 year old. He doesn’t speak to either of them kindly. He speaks to them like they’re animals. If one of them is in his way he will yell “MOVE” to them. Instead of simply walking around them or saying excuse me or literally anything else. Just MOVE. If they don’t listen to him or do what he wants he will say he’s going to “pop” or spank them. Which, is not something I agree with. He will literally say “if you hit me I’ll spank you” which is only teaching our kids that its okay for someone to hit them, especially an adult, someone bigger than them, someone that should be protecting them. It sends so many bad messages. He says it so often that my 2 year old will ask if my husband is going to hit him when he sees that he’s mad. Every time he speaks to them he’s speaking negatively, criticizing, belittling these babies. Our newly 1 year old doesn’t even speak and just learned to walk for fuck sake. Our toddler just wants to play with his dad. When one of them cries or whines he goes “whhhhhattttttt 🙄” as if them being upset over something or needing something is an inconvenience to him. I don’t understand it. He doesn’t speak to them like they are his children that he loves. He speaks to them as if they’re slaves out of line. I know that last sentence is very harsh but it’s really how he treats them and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried talking to him, I’ve ended up yelling at him cuz he doesn’t listen to me , he just gets mad and gives me the silent treatment or rolls his eyes whenever I ask him to speak to them like they’re human, he’s just a fucking asshole. It’s like he’s on a power trip over toddlers. I’m at the point where separation has crossed my mind.

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Omg I’m sorry about it babe , if there’s anything I can do tell me just ask him what is his problem? Or i don’t know go to some therapy or something that maybe could help

Please leave. For the safety and wellbeing of your children. This “man” is not good for them.

@Donna Woods I second this !

I'd secretly record him and show him how disgusting he is treating them

Oh hell no, I would NOT have him around my kids. Gross. I feel bad for them that they have a dad that would even talk to them like that.

He sounds like an absolute dick! I’d leave, I wouldn’t let anyone treat my kids like that whether it’s their dad or not. And the fact that your 2 year old sounds like he’s scared of him is so sad and so wrong. Get you and your babies out of there, you all deserve better

I would be out the door with those kids, the fact your 2yr old asks if he's going to get hit when he sees dad. Kids shouldn't fear their parents

Start recording every instance. You will need proof in the custody battle

I’m a SAHM, I have been for about 10 months now, I don’t spank my kids and I don’t let my husband either, he has before but not aggressively at all but that’s really besides the point because it’s the principle, but I ended up flipping out over it because my toddler would ask if he was going to get spanked when he was mad and my husband seems to use fear as a way to get them to do what they want. He will say things in an intimidating tone and “muscle up” saying they need to listen to him, when he shows no respect for them. And I have told him not to expect respect when he shows none for anyone else. I’ve also reminded him that they are BABIES. My toddler is very smart for his age but he still has a baby brain, they’re literally small children I don’t expect them to know how to act or handle their emotions, my oldest hasn’t even been on this earth for 3 years yet! We were outside all day today and my kids were running around playing with eachother and my toddler was laughing/screaming

Running from my 1 year old, having FUN. And my husband goes “hey! Quit squealing. Only girls do that.” Like? I just hate the things he says. I told him to leave him be and let him, he’s being a kid, we’re outside, he’s playing with his brother and he’s happy. Who cares. I’m just so disappointed and embarrassed that this is the man I’m married to. It breaks my heart. Separation will be hard, and that’s no excuse, but I need to be prepared for a long hard battle if that’s what’s going to end up happening and I guess I’m nervous of what could happen especially being a SAHM and not living anywhere near my family. I would need to fight for full custody in order to move out of state because he would never let it happen otherwise

Girl, you need to leave him, if he’s taking his anger out on little children who depend on you two to teach them right from wrong and they’re literally like learning how to live. And his solutions are to yell and hit them. And he’s too immature to have the conversation of why he does what he does and all he does is get mad you need to protect yourself and your children.

I would be out of there so fast. It’s hard for me to read this ugh poor babies! I hope you have friends or family to lean on. 💕

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