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@Carly it's been more then a year now. I just don't get it, he's still doing everything else, going out with friends, drinking working so I don't get why he's just stopped doing it. I feel like it's my fault because obviously during and after pregnancy I've put on weight but I just don't know. Did you guys try anything different, how do you get over this stage?
Honestly, I know it’s hard to be vulnerable, even with spouses sometimes, because we feel embarrassed or ashamed.. I would make a real safe space for him to talk and not be judgmental or get upset, and see if you can get to the bottom of why he’s feeling the way he is. There’s obviously a reason. Try sitting down with him and sharing your feelings and see if he’ll open up. Going to have to really talk to get through this, it can’t be pushed aside, it’ll only get worse, you’re going to have to be open with each other.
If your weight is his problem then he has bigger issues. If anything I had just start putting in the effort even if I didn’t want to. My husband was very mad and frustrated about it, but he always came to me about it and just waited until I was ready.
We went about a year without it. I was the one who had no desire to. We made it through it. It was hard on my husband but he waited it out until I could mentally make efforts to fix it. Wasn’t like that after our second baby.