Anxiety

Aware this sounds super bratty and I don’t mean it like that at all. I just can’t get over it and keep crying about it.

Hi lovely You are absolutely in your right to feel your way about things you’d had your heart set on - that’s what we do as humans isn’t it :) But just to try and make you feel a liiitle better about it - this will be my second September baby, and although granted, I have nothing to compare it to - I was somewhat relieved when I found out :) Some positives for you ❤️ - It’s nice not to have the constant stress about keeping the baby out of the sun and the heat when they’re so little. We took ours to NZ when he was 3 months and it was a really tricky aspect. You get to do things like baby showers or last meet up with friends and family when the weather is lovely. The thought of snuggling up with a newborn on chilly autumn days and those tiny feet infront of Christmas tree lights. I know it’s hard but try and focus on your new exciting things ❤️

I know what you mean in terms of the winter evenings with a new born it is daunting. I had my first in October and the days did feel short but it was the best thing having an older baby in spring and summer. As Katie mentioned above it’s less stressful having a winter baby in terms of keeping baby the right temperature, then by the time the summer comes they are that bit older and it’s easier to figure out how to dress them. Also we did a lot of weaning outside in the shade which meant less mess in the house, and the summer was so fun as our little boy was more alert and I felt more relaxed and established as a mum. You will be glad long term about it I think!

If it makes you feel better, as a teacher of little ones, summer born children can really struggle in school as they’re almost a whole year behind their peers! Having a September baby your baby will be one of the eldest in their cohort and would have had a lot more opportunities for play experiences and nursery etc. than unfortunately August babies that have to start in the same school year unless they defer xxx

Seconding everyone else. My husband and I actively planned for a September baby in order to make them one of the oldest kids in the school year - it’s giving them a great start (I’m now at risk for preterm labour so our plans may be down the pan) I had my first in February and it was a real stress keeping him cool in the summer when it was getting to over 27 in the bedroom at night.

Agree with all the comments about summer babies. Children born in August tend to really struggle compared to their peers. They are almost a whole year younger than some of their class and this can really have a big impact. Having a September baby can really give them a head start jn school!

Wanted to add that we purposely aimed for a September baby based on my years of experience as a teacher and seeing the constant struggle of most summer born children. I also love the idea of getting to just enjoy the summer/summer holidays period without going into labour in intense heat and being all sweaty and hot during recovery. At least September usually tends to be a bit cooler and autumn is a beautiful season to be born in! Think little baby outfits in pumpkin patches and a little 2/3month old in Christmas outfits. There’s a reason the end two weeks of September are the most popular birthdays! 🤪 I hope that with time you’re able to come to terms with it and see it for the blessing that it is 💛💛💛

I want a summer baby. I first thought my due date was the 2nd September but currently at 27th August and bloody hell I’ll be doing everything to get the baby out in August 😂 but fully aware it might not be. But know I’ll be fuming if it is September hahah I suffered with PPD too with my son born in November. But I can honestly say the weather wouldn’t have changed that. Yes summer nights feel better, but you can’t change the chemicals in your brain with weather unfortunately. If you’re worried about it make sure you tell your midwife and health visitor (and even with how you’re feeling now) and they can help do extra check ins. But the first few months will always feel tough with lack of sleep and change of hormones. But try not to think about it happening, you can’t predict it so think about it another way…what if it goes great? What if I love motherhood? What if I make some great new mamma friends?

Thank you so much for your kind messages of support. I reached out to my midwife today and she is doing a check in. Think I am massively overthinking it but just finding it hard comparing to others.