Never felt comfortable with my partner taking my daughter to his parents but now I’ve given birth to a premature baby he’s taking advantage and taking her often and even overnight whilst I have a long hospital stay.

Just needed a place to say this. Because I’m currently in hospital 1 week postpartum with a premature baby in nicu so in hospital caring for my baby. My daughter is 2 and I don’t feel comfortable with her at my in laws house for many reasons not because I’m evil. But his brother sexually abused his cousin with special needs. His uncle sexually abused his niece and both his parents took the uncle and their sons side and the victims were basically cut out by the whole family. I have a daughter and I have a fear that will happen to her. The brother still lives there and I understand she’s only 2 but she can be groomed from a young age without me being there and his stupid parents will side with the males. I’m recovering from a c section and want my baby home soon but she still needs support in the nicu but their dad is taking advantage and because I can’t do anything is taking my daughter there often and even leaving them in a room with her. I only know this because I called him asked to see my daughter and saw she wasn’t with him. He also doesn’t like me talking to my daughter on the phone

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I'm sorry to hear this. Stay strong. You're doing your best and things just aren't easy for you. Tell him how you feel. Is there anyone at all who can step in and offer childcare?

Doesn't like you talking to your daughter on the phone why?

@Mas I’m trying to😢 and my mums there she’s even taken time off work to look after her but what can my mum do when her dads coming and taking her every time

@Heather she’s a big mummy’s girl I don’t think he likes that :(

So is he trying to break her of being that? Because that has to be traumatizing to her.

Is there a trusted friend you can ask to step in massively? You could find ways to return the favour in the years to come. Can your daughter start nursery so she's not with the family during the day and when she's in nursery you can be with baby? Calling the social services and raising your concern is one way of stopping him. Doing so comes with consequences but if it gives you peace of mind, do it

He sounds psychotic....

Your husband is not a good father taking his daughter into the home with a predator. You are allowing him to continue the cycle of violence by not taking immediate action. Your daughters chances for abuse are high. Your alarm bells going off is a signal from your body that she is in danger right now. She is not safe. Predators dont care about age. Do whatever is necessary to stop him from having your daughter call the police if necesary. Whatever it takes. Your main function is to protect this girl, your child. Do not fail her. Use whatever means necessary to do so.

What arrangements were made prior to you going into the hospital? Was your mom to take care of daughter til your release? Was partner supposed to stay with you but then left cause extended stay? Your mom needs to just say something like no, we have plans for the day and no let him take her. If push comes to shove-are you willing to report it to child services? I agree with a lot of what Debby says, but if you report it, your likely not going back to whatever relationship you had with your partner. Honestly, if this was discussed -daughter not going there without you- and he's now ignoring it, that's a pretty big red flag anyways

@Debby has said everything! I’m also going to add that your partner is NOT a safe person either. The fact that all this abuse has gone on in his family and he is still in contact with said person (his brother), visits him and leaves his CHILD amongst a convicted paedophile?? 🤯 I would also be worried that your partner is a potential abuser too. He appears to have no issue with what his brother has done. The apple doesn’t usually fall far from the tree.

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