I just wana fuck!

If my boyfriend was being a shit partner I’d rid him all together and not give him the advantage of having my body ever again.

i’d make sure you establish your relationship/boundaries first. like for example, youre just fuck buddies but allowed to date/kiss/fuck whoever you want without the other getting mad/jealous. if in the end it doesnt work out, then it doesnt work out. but if this is something you both want i say go for it cause why not 🤷‍♀️😂

Protect your energy. Having sex is an exchange of intimacy and physical matter whether you label it casual or not. It does affect you on a cellular level. Invest in a good vibrator in the meantime 😅

Definitely invest in a good vibrator regardless because tbh they’re just amazing to use, but if you’re living under the same roof, coparenting effectively, and have child/ren together, I would ride him out ! Lol

I think get yours if you can truly keep your feelings at bay. But just be mindful - I don’t know how far pp you are but emotions can be a mess for a long time. And consider how you’d feel if he were to bring someone else back home.

@Tolu we both agreed to never bring a person back to our living space and that if another person touched either of us, sex would stop immediately and we would just co-parent. We are both able to keep our feelings at bay and just enjoy each others company, though it’s hard and we are grieving the partners we thought we had.

That’s fantastic that you’ve already discussed all of this and set clear boundaries. I think it can be an effective arrangement as long as you continue to be open with each other. Get yours and I hope it all works out for you 😊. Also wish you well with finding a new relationship if that’s what you’re after.

Better not to and just move on.

Even though you may think it’s just sex, it really isn’t. Both of you are being lazy and also stopping yourselves from finding another partner. You’re also delaying the inevitable which is the grieving of the relationship. You’re still living together and despite you being co-parents, to the outside world you may as well still be a couple as you’re still having sex. You haven’t had the opportunity to see what real co-parenting looks like when you live apart. If he steps up or drops out because life is hard. Whether that affects your opinion of him. You haven’t seen how miserable and spiteful he may get if you suddenly found a new man. If you truly are done, then you should stop blurring the lines and having sex. It’s muddying the waters and also you have no idea if he still thinks by doing so, you two will get back together. Detach properly and focus on one of you moving out. Focus on co-parenting effectively. If you’re horny use a sex toy.

That doesn't sound like a healthy/good relationship to have when there are children in your lives 🤷‍♀️

If I’m being honest alot of ppl stumble and fall at this hurdle, u might be surprised that maybe forgiveness could on the horizon once pp is passed? if ur able to talk openly over time whilst ur not dating and perhaps protecting ur potential relationship by not sleeping with others - could be a good idea as long as u don’t keep ur hopes up too much

Sounds like you will get back together at some point....having a baby can put stress on a relationship, postpartum hormones unbalanced make you want to kill your partner sometimes....if you are still intimate, living together and taking care of child, to me is that you are not really over

I think you are just mad if you continue sleeping with him it will conspire to you getting back together. you’re basically together but i guess you’re avoiding him demanding things from you in a relationship but still want that family benefits to yourself, in reality yall need to communicate better and either be together in a relationship like a family or don’t do it because you will confuse yourselves and your children

Sounds like he got his cake and gets to eat it too lol