I just dont really know who to talk to & want some unbiased opinions.
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@Justina normally I think it's more of an emotional thing for me but I not sure currently. It's just frustrating that he just complains that I'm in a bad mood all the time & pins all the blame on me so I'm left waiting for different things to happen to see if it makes a difference. (Like going back to work, or getting my period back, potentially when we stop breastfeeding now). I've told him I don't feel very close & require more connection. He just comes back with we don't have much time since the baby was born so bj first then maybe cuddles. But always makes the bj take forever because he thinks it's better when he holds off finishing even though he's often left frustrated when it happens when he wasn't planning to.
Sex is deffo emotional for me … I’m not in the mood when my man piss me off and i really feel for you . I have a 10 month old and when I have time I just want to rest too it’s so tiring
Has anything changed to make you not interested? What would get you going? As someone with a higher sex drive I see how that could be frustrating in a relationship. Intimacy is important and of course comes in different forms. He’s being truthful though and communicating that it’s something he wants in his relationship. I think it comes down to what you truly want at the end do you want a relationship where hardly have sex or do you want to try fixing the problem? If you want to fix it what like I mentioned before what would get you going again? Tell your man what your looking for
As someone with a high sex drive pre baby, after I had my son it dipped so much. Hormones were everywhere, I was stressed, not sleeping, and having to juggle everything at once. Things that facilitated me feeling better were to talk it out. It wasn't just cuddles it was going out on a date. A real one, where I get to do my makeup and dress up. If we couldn't do a real date just dressing up made me feel better. Having my husband take care of the baby so I could have 1 hour uninterrupted (I go to the gym). After getting some alone time with myself and reflecting on the fact that sex won't be the same like before baby. I felt much better.
It just feels like everything leads to sex & that's all he cares about because he won't just hangout/spend time together without it He makes everything transactional of he did actually watch the kids or do the dishes or make dinner so he deserves/is entitled to sex in his eyes Turns everytime nap time into let's have sex even though I'm not in the mood. Makes it seem like his wants matter more than my feelings.
Sounds a bit selfish to me
He’s not being of service plus he’s complaining and not giving you what you need sexually so you’re not interested clearly, when’s the last time he went down? These men are bland.
My ex didn’t eat pussy the whole 6 mos like….. if you let them show their colors they will
Girl I would love to talk to you more if you wanna dm. I am 98% sure I identify as asexual….. it’s sooo hard in a marriage even when you told your partner right from the start! Feel free to message me. I’m looking for other women to chat with about this. 🫶🏼
This is a very tough situation… sex is very important in a relationship especially for men. I understand where he’s coming from and I like the fact that he’s not forcing you but he’s been truthful that it’s something he needs .. do you think you can take supplements to help your drive or is it emotional??