UK girlies, I need some advice with no judgment please… bear with me while I explain my situation- see below (sorry for the long message)

Me and my partner of 9 years have been separated for the last 6 months, it’s been fairly amicable. We have a joint mortgage and bills. We’ve continued to live together for our 19 month old and he’s been supporting us still, but he’s mentioned that we need to think of long term finances as he can’t keep supporting me if our separation turns into a divorce (which is the direction it’s going). I’ve been working part time since returning to work so he’s been the bigger wage earner. Our toddler is 19 months and when I’m working she is looked after by my sister (she works from home 3 days, but can’t do any other days which is why I work part time). I’m not comfortable putting her in nursery any time soon either. My wage (£2000 p/m) will only cover my portion of the mortgage/bills (totalling £1950) so I will be left with literally no money to live off, so no food no fuel to drive to work etc. He will pay anything needed towards our toddler but I will literally have £50 for the month. My question is, will I be entitled to any support or benefits to keep afloat financially until I can figure something out? Thank for you any advice or support
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Yes. Message me privately as I know quite a bit about these situations x

You can only apply for universal credit if you are separated and they also help by funding 85% of childcare fees if you need more days in work this could be used for a childminder in a home setting if your not comfortable with nurseries. in the meanwhile you can visit a citizen advice bureau they will be able to assist much better by giving you relevant informations you need hope this helps x

@Jasmine citizen advice bereau is a god idea, thank you. Will I still be able to get universal credit on my salary? X

If your half of mortgage and bills is just under £2k, I’m guessing you have an expensive property? How much equity do you have in it and what would be your share after it was sold?

@Neena we live in the outskirts of London so properties are just more expensive, and interest rates have increased so our mortgage trippled in the last year. We’re not planning on selling at the moment

He will have to support you in some way, at least the child. Maybe he could pay for childcare the other days so you can work full time… nursery fees/ childcare costs aren’t down to the mum alone and you have the funded hours now too for a childcare setting. I doubt you’d get help whilst still living together as it’s still a household income… everyone could say that to get extra money. If you he wants to think long term, you both need to decide where your going to live first and go from there

You could get universal credit and child benefit, and your child is entitled to the free 15 hours, and also, universal credit will help with childcare as you work.

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