I need to rant and reassurance please
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I think this all sounds really developmentally normal! Most kids go through a period of separation anxiety. My son is a massive mummies boy and even if his dad tries to give me a cuddle he pushes him away says no and then lays where dad was laying giving him evils 😂 If I’m trying to do something my son won’t be held by dad has to be me so even if dads free I often end up doing something with LO sat on my lap or beside me! Point being it’s not anything you’ve done, your LO is just being a toddler it’ll pass x
This is a normal phase that all children go through at some point or another regardless of whether a mother has anxiety or not. You are doing a fantastic job, she sees you as her safe person and that's why she behaves this way. You haven't done anything wrong! A sassy little girl is hard on her parents but she's also exactly who the world needs more of! You're raising a queen! 👑
This behaviour is SO normal at this age. Seperation anxiety spikes around 18 months and will last a while. It’s normal as they still very much need you to survive. By holding them and picking them up and comforting them when they cry you are ensuring they feel secure and your meeting their needs. Honestly, long term, doing this will make your LO more secure in future relationships. It’s not your anxiety causing this. Xx
You're doing great! Don't worry you can't spoil a baby. I think comforting them is always fine even if you're setting a boundary at the same time. Do get help for anxiety if not already but also don't feel bad about it, you can only do your best which you are already doing and that's enough! Feeling bad about what he said is only going to make your anxiety worse. You're doing great and separation anxiety is common at this age and won't last forever
Experiencing the exact same here!! In fact I came on looking for some advice. I too spend the vast majority of time with my little one (work 3 days a week but from home those 3 days) and her separation anxiety is really bad at the moment. She screams for me if I’m not with her every second of the day. It’s hard going but as others have commented we are their safe person and I do think it reflects what a strong bond we have. Sorry about your partner’s comments, not remotely helpful or supportive and certainly not what you need right now. Dads often don’t get it at all. Keep doing what you are doing and sending lots of strength!!
Hey hope you're okay. He has no idea the stress of our babies crying does to us. You are doing your best, and that is all you can do. Remember this is just a phase and I know its easier said than done because people tell me that too but it will get better. She just needs you. You are doing great mama ❤️