How do I deal with PPD?
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And make sure you are taking your prenatals even after birth or postnatal vitamins ! Being deficient can contribute to ppd as well.
Hi love. Breathe...and breathe again..breathe slower. Life is moving fast and making you dizzy right? I had it with both of mine. Everything that wasn't them felt like a threat and isolating felt like the best thing considering how many people were dependable around us. My own husband has looked like a problem to me time to time. Intrusive thoughts will try though honey don't let them win so B R E A T H E .this isn't to feel or sound like I'm undermining your feelings you literally will alter your brain chemicals with the way you're breathing. If you feel alone and want to be alone v surround yourself with selfish people then slow yourself down and breathe mama you can do it one little bit at a time. Put it in practice from now it will help your body. Heal from the birth. It's a trauma remember. Your partner can still be a supporter for the baby . Mind your own boundaries and just start with the bare minimum for them to do with the baby. Hold the baby while you sit outside alone NO phone maybe music etc
I mean for the partner to do. And also if baby is crying upset , they can feel what you feel. They're not crying for nothing, it's usually something but even if you can't fix that specific thing right away find your calm first and the way you want to soothe them soothe yourself first in that way. It's hard but you understand the priority you and your baby. I'm sorry if it's harder I also knew a mom that struggled with baby bonding. It's a chemical imbalance. But you can. You need help love resources if not family resources don't betray yourself thinking you're doing what you need to and still feel this way. I believe you can find a way you're just getting started hon
@Tionna Honestly no I havent found anyone to talk to. It feels wrong to express my PPD and PPR like im judged. I tried to say something to my grandma and it didnt go to well. My partner is making it worse whenever I ask for help he says hes tired and puts up a fight. Im trying so hard every day. And no one sees it.
@Kayla Yes my babies dad and i sleep separately right now and i message him when i need help with the baby at night. He always complains and says hes so tired. I messaged him the other night and he didnt respond for 30 minutes and didnt even wake up to her crying so loudly. Our rooms are right next to each other. Its like he chose to not wake up and help. He claimed he didnt remember to turn his ringer on. He stayed up very late playing video games. I breastfeed. I fed my daughter burped her and swaddled her to go back to sleep and she just kept on screaming and crying so hard. I was getting overwhelmed. I wanted to cry ans felt it but no tears would come out. And i did have an intrusive thought and i kept messaging him for help but he wouldnt come. And i finally got up and went to his room angrily and yelled at him. He tried to get up really fast and come to me but i yelled at him that i dont want his help anymore and i messaged him alot after i got my daughter to sleep. i went off
@Kayla i went off on him and he tried to make excuses and it just made me feel more angry. i hate him. i hate that i was begging for help and support especially while i was having an intrusive thought and was left alone. Im too scared to confide in him bc he threatens me with custody battles and taking me to court and i once cried in the middle of the night during the first few weeks of breastfeeding and said i cant do this its too hard and later that week when i was telling him he needs to be more involved without me always asking, he said well your an unfit mom and a bad parent because you said you couldnt breastfeed. and he tries to keep tally of all the things i say to use it against me. im scared he would try to take my baby away if i explain to him. even with PPD and how i dont want to be awake some days. i am terrified to just confide in him and lose my baby. i think my family would look at me weird if i told them about my PP or intrusive thoughts or how shitty of a partner
@Kayla shitty of a partner he is. im drowning every day im drowning right now as im messaging you. im in bed breastfeeeding my baby, shes starting to fall asleep again.. and he is in the other room sleeping away while i stay awake all alone.
Hey honey ! Im sorry to hear that. Going through all that and taking care of a newborn alone can definitely contribute to ppd and ppr. On top of being a SAHM. Have you tried getting outside a little, that can definitely help. Take morning or mid day walks for a change of scenery. Have you also found someone to talk to ? Find atleast one friend or family member to come over and keep you and your baby company or even get outdoors with sometimes.