Confused

I don't have any answers for you but know you're not alone in the confusion. I'm so on the fence about a second baby and I'm constantly thinking about the what ifs

Appreciate you reaching out. It's a tough one for sure x

I had my 2nd baby in December and hes now 4 months old. My daughter is the best big sister and loved her brother. Some days are hard as the age gap Is 18 months and she still needs a lot of attention but it’s so wonderful seeing them together and he laughs and smiles at her all day. You’ll never regret having another baby but you might always regret not. I must admit it is very different the second time in terms of feeling excited 🤣 I felt like I was constantly googling how big my baby was when I was pregnant the first time but this time I was more relaxed and forgot how many weeks I was lol. It’s still magical nonetheless but for me not like being pregnant and experiencing it for the first time. Still love them both the same x

Thank you @Anneliese This is so lovely to hear and definitely makes me want it! I'm scared financially of the cost of 2 and also my 1st has terrible sleep regressions and I think I just don't know if I could do this again/do this with 2 but then in the bigger picture it's such a short time of them being little. I'd definitely wait another year though because I know I wouldn't cope well with them being so little together - maybe a 3.5 year age gap would be more manageable. But then when I'm getting carried away I know everything would have to change. We'd need to move house at some point as we only have 2 bedrooms. Lots to think about! x

I want to experience it again but also want to give my little man a sibling. It’s okay for both reasons to be the reason to have another! As Anneliese said, you’ll never regret bringing another soul Earth-side ❤️

I knew I wanted another one as sooon as my first was born haha. It was more of a waiting game for the right time for me. We went for it after realising we had both been thinking about it. I think if you’re thinking about it, you want one hehe I also know I don’t want this to be the last time I’m pregnant. But let’s see how I cope with two!

Id love to be able to give my son a sibling but we’ve decided no for a number of reasons. Feel confident in what we can give him and that nowadays being an only child won’t be that unusual. Whatever you decide you’re still a great mum x

When you picture your life in 18 years, how many of you are sat round the dining table? X

Thank you all so much. I really appreciate you more than I could say and sending love to those in the same boat. I envy people who have always known they wanted more than one as I didn't expect to feel this way, it feels like a real Sliding Doors moment ♥️

@Natalie Thank you so much. I really resonate with this. I feel confident in what I could give my daughter as an only child too and worry that I wouldn't be able to give the same if I had another. It feels like such a head and heart pull. I'm hoping these feelings might fade as I'd previously been so happy with my decision to only have one. I sold literally all of her things as I was so sure so that would be a huge regret if we do have another! I'm going to have to give it some time and have lots of talks with partner. It's wild how strongly I want another at the moment though, I wish I didn't feel this way! Thank you for your lovely comment. You're a great mum too and sound like you're doing a fantastic job with your son x