Confused

In a similar boat! No advice but hugs for solidarity!

Maybe not the best way to think about it but the time will pass (going through pregnancy, labour, newborn stages all go by so quick). Think years from now would you wish you had a second? Im in the same boat but I know I’ll regret not having a second so sacrificing a few years maybe worth it for me.

New baby stage is awesome but having a sibling is even more amazing. As an only child I’m definitely having 2 kids!

I think that mean you went another one. I think you have had time to have that little bit of a break and now you get 9+ months for a break if you start trying that I think it’ll be good. I think when people are done done. They don’t even have those feelings anymore

Best advice ive heard is picture your future in 5 / 10 years time, do you see one child or two

I think there’s some important questions to ask yourself and your partner if you have one, what vision do you have for your family? I would give that some thought and whether or not this vision includes having your daughter be an older sibling and caring for multiple kiddos through school support, friend support, extra curriculars, college, work, relationships, etc. I would recommend just taking the time to vision and answer honestly if you could support having a second one. From what you’ve shared I think your subconscious might be hinting at something! Think of it as an opportunity of self discovery 🥰

Thank you all so, so much 💖 You've given me lots to think about xx

You don't re-do your first experience! Every kid and every pregnancy is different. Even you are different than before you had your daughter. If it's something you decide to move forward with, don't expect things to follow the same path. It's a whole new journey! Wait a month or two and see if these feelings change (get stronger or disappear) Talk to your partner and see where they are at. Give your mind a chance to wander and see what comes up. More people regret the kids they don't have than the ones they do...

I’m dealing with the exact same thing ! I have nothing to say tbh . Wish you the very best ❤️

Following this because I have the exact same confusion and have yet to find any clarity or settle on a decision

Honestly, I don’t think any of us have the ability to tell you how you feel. It could be something you generally want, or it could be hormone related but only you can answer this. It’s something you’ll need to sit and really think long and hard about, if you have a spouse then have a conversation with them about it. It’s something only you can come to the conclusion of.

Well you’ve gotten some great advice so far. I was one and done too but was surprised by a second pregnancy. It was not what I planned and it was rough having two kids close in age. But, eight years later, they are best friends and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. Don’t really want to sway you but I will say I think it is easier now with two kids who can occupy each other. So maybe think about what you want long-term and if you’re ok putting in the work with a second baby.

Such helpful advice 💕

Thank you all so much. I really appreciate you more than I could say and sending love to those in the same boat. I envy people who have always known they wanted more than one as I didn't expect to feel this way, it feels like a real Sliding Doors moment ♥️