Break up

Might be worth trying to have a night away together or just some time together for a night or two. Re-try dates like you used to. Try and re-live how you did pre-parents! X

This is sad that he's never approached you before with these issues! Mine and my partners relationship has changed dramatically but I've expressed to him on many occasions what he's doing to upset me! I'm sorry you're going through this xx

Have you asked him straight if there’s anyone else? I’ve watched a lot of sex and the city and a man doesn’t usually leave a woman unless he has someone else, however a woman would leave a man for multiple reasons. It does sound like you’ve been blind sided if he’s never brought these issues up before and he should be willing to try and resolve things especially because you’re the mother of his child. You maybe need to give him some space but arrange a time to properly speak so that both of you can work this out xxx

I have a feeling he's met someone else but he's saying he hasn't but I don't believe him. It makes no sense to me at all. I've even suggested couples counciling but he's said no

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I feel your pain. Ultimately, it sounds like he's already emotionally left the relationship. The fact he doesn't want to discuss counselling is a red flag to me and i wouldn't waste anymore time on him. In my case, he said he was unhappy and no longer in love with me. Then i found out he had cheated when I checked his phone. After we split, I found out it wasn't just one woman and I had the feeling the cheating had been going on a long time. It was absolutely devastating at the time, and I desperately wanted to salvage our relationship as we had been together 10 years. In hindsight, I can see the cracks and even without the cheating he treated me terribly. I hope he hasn't cheated on you, but either way trying to make it work when his heart isn't in it is a lost cause IMO. You will get through this and come out the other side stronger. I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you got friends and family for support?

Listen to your instinct. If you feel like he’s hiding something maybe he is. If it’s been sexless for a while has he gone looking elsewhere and met someone else? If you’re reading this feeling like fuck that’s exactly what I was thinking but wanted everyone to tell me I was wrong then I’ll say it again, listen to your gut. Any man who would walk away without warning or without trying for when you’ve been through something as big as pregnancy, birth and child rearing is just not the one.

Me and my ex husband was the same - together for 17 years and married - unfortunately it sounds like us. I had a feeling he was having a affair and questioned him several times but he was adamant and denied it. I was devastated and he left me and 2 children. I Went into depression and begged him to stay. 2 months after break - he admitted he had been having an affair with a mutual friend now his wife to be. 4 years on we are both happy and both marrying someone else. U don't see it at the time but now I'm glad it's happened. Our relationship wasn't healthy. But now with my finance I'm the happiest I've been in years and years. It gets better but don't don't be that person like me and beg him to stay. I promise it gets easier 🩷🩷xx