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My in-laws kept saying I MUST need a break and that they would watch my 4 month old exclusively breastfed baby for an entire day. It pissed me off so much. I was obsessed with my baby and wanted to spend 24 hours a day with her so no; I did not need or want a break. I told them sorry but they didn’t need to watch her. Next time he does it I would just say “you can hold baby if you want; even though I don’t need a break.” And see if he picks up on it. If he doesn’t I would just openly ask “hey, I would love it if you could stop phrasing it like that.”
Ooh yeah I don't like that phrasing either. I'm sure he means well (or I hope so) but I agree with the ladies here. Maybe say something like "he doesn't make me tired (cuddle) but you can have some grandpa time"?
Simply stop giving the baby up . Dont let them take the baby if you dont want them to
Just talk to him and ask if he could use different words because you don’t want the baby to feel like it’s their fault for you being tired.
I’d be like I don’t need a break but if you wanna hold the baby here ya go. Just be honest.
I wouldn’t like him saying “you make mommy tired”, that’s not very nice to say to a baby/child. He could simply ask you if you need a break.
That child will grow up to feel shame whenever he needs you if your FIL keeps saying that. Not ok! ❌
Maybe express that you will let him know when you need a break 😭