I feel so alone

I’m regretting my decision to stay for now. I’m expecting my first child and thought it’d be wise to wait until baby is born before making a big decision to leave. My husband’s anger issues & constant competition with me has led me to questioning whether I want to be in this marriage in the long-term. I had an opportunity to move to a new place on my own but thought it’d be better to move together & try work things until after baby is here. My fear was having to shoulder things on my own especially the labour as I don’t have any family nearby but now we’ve moved to a new place & baby responsibilities coming up, I just feel I’m alone. I’m about to go on Mat leave & he still expects me to pay for everything 50/50. It was not 50/50 before, I used to shoulder most of the bills & when I expressed that we needed to make things equal, he would go into a rage & silent treatment would follow for the next couple days. Eventually for my peace of mind I stopped chasing. But now I feel that as I’m going on Mat leave he should be able to at least be more considerate but that’s not happening. I just regret choosing to stay for now. Last night was my first night in the new house & he chose to sleep in the sofa rather than the bed & we didn’t even have a fight.
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I know leaving is scary, I can relate. You can do this. I would advise leaving before the baby is born and asking a close friend or family member to help out/come and stay with you for a while. I left my husband when my daughter was 5 weeks old and moved back to my parents for 5 months until I got back on my feet. In my opinion, you will be in a better position to get sorted before the baby comes than after. I stayed for the same reason as you and I really wish I had left before I had my daughter. I really feel for you as I know this is a rubbish time for you. You are stronger than you think x

@Kimberley it’s too late now as we just moved to a new house & I’m on the contract. I’ll have my mum come support me once baby is here so will have the strength to move on. Right now I regret my decision for carrying on with the relationship but also feel guilty for saying this as he did the manual job of moving us.

Can you go back to your mam's when she goes back home so you can get sorted? Is the house rented or mortgaged?

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