Tantrums
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I just apologised to anyone looking and continued out. It was hard but I stuck to it and wouldn't let her back in even when she started a tantrum to go back in. Parenting is hard work and trial and error. For me I found ignoring LG and not interacting for the most part or trying to stop the tantrum was more effective. Might work for you or might not. But hoping it might help you as it can't be easy. Xx
You are not powerless - you are the adult and he is a child. Ensure they are safe and let them ride it out. We carry on and talk normally and 9/10 it stops as he gets distracted or wants something else we are offering. When he’s calmed down we have a cuddle
During a tantrum the logical side of the brain does not respond, so explaining or mini therapy sessions do not work. If the toddler is safe and not hurting himself or others, it’s best to ignore it and the moment they settle offer to do something fun. Ignore the bad, reward the good kind of thing.
My toddler waiting for autism diagnosis he's not talking yet and I'm not sure if he understands me when I try to reason with him or when I tell him we will back there in few minutes or this road takes us on playground as well. I do kisses and hugs holding him tight but he's strong and after sometimes I can't lift my hand. I hold him when tantrum is in unsafe area like next to the road .
First off just want to say this is perfectly normal. For your toddler and for you to feel like you do. My toddlers tantrums have escalated big time recently. I just explain why I've said no, then just say that when you've calmed down you can come to mummy for hugs and kisses but we're not doing x, y, z. I do this in public as well as at home. As long as LG is not in immediate danger I move away to give space and then check in every so often saying are you okay now? No okay when you are ready come to mummy. Sometimes it takes 5 minutes, sometimes a few seconds, sometimes 20 to 30 minutes. I then explain that when they scream and shout I can understand so that now they are calm to try and explain/show what they want. Or if it is because I said no I explain that ita okay to get angry and ve upset but sometimes we have to say no. If she is in danger then I just pick her up and put her down somewhere safe. The other day I had to carry her kicking and screaming out of Sainsbury's.