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@Rosie when we do discuss it, he just says that it’s me who doesn’t want to, I have tried but apart of me has given up trying from being turned down so much over the last 6/7 months. We get on really well other than this and always speak about any issues when they pop up but after discussing this issue it never seems to go further than that x
Maybe you could suggest blocking some time out together to prioritise it? My partner and I have seen a real drop in our sex life since being pregnant, due to issues with bleeding so we now literally book time in to do the deed. It feels a bit forced but it’s our way of showing that we both still want it. If he then rejects the idea, you could calmly explain that his reaction makes you feel unwanted and what does he recommend to rekindle it? Xx
I’ll suggest and see what he thinks. Hopefully something changes! Thank you xx
Good luck! Xx
Some men find it difficult to be sexually intimate when their partner is pregnant, even if they can't admit it to you or themselves. It could well be as simple as that, especially if every other aspect of your relationship is still good. Perhaps try finding time together to be intimate in other ways. He might also be worried about hurting your feelings if he says he just doesn't feel right having sex whilst you're pregnant, so if that's something you feel you can hear from him, opening that line of communication may also be helpful. My first pregnancy with my husband we weren't intimate at all really. He felt put off by the bump in the way (not in an unattracted way, but more just awkward), that he was worried about hurting me, worried about hurting the baby and so psychologically it was something he struggled with, and that's ok.
Is he the type of person you could sit down and frank discussion about this? Could you write him a message or letter to explain how you are feeling and that you really want to have an open conversation? If you think he might be defensive you could say you’ll both prepare in advance things that you’re finding hard, things that you’re worried about, things that you’re excited about or something and then it’s not just on him to share - would he be receptive to that?