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Ps. Unless u have idea of his profile and what ur profile says or if u both blank and want be fwb or sleep buddies with side dating. I think u know where he is in his head since u talked etc for months? Ps his and yr values on family, relationship and if your part of Hook up culture or have no religious values.. all that matters. I'm guess he has no kids? Being with single mother with kid, most guys don't want that . It sucks but some are OK. Like divorced dad's etc
I think it’s far too early. Only because you’ve been on 1 date, and then a weekend - that’s no time at all to really get to know a person. At the moment I’d say you were just friends.
We are both in our late 20s but I have old him before we were intimate my take on sleeping with different / multiple people is not my thing and if wants to continue with me it can’t be alongside others unless he requires more intimacy that I can provide. I still feel like nearly 4 months of consistent talking should still account to something. Because I feel like it can easily become a cop out due to the distance to end up in a situationship that ends up lasting a year or even more than that with no security or commitment of any kind
He’s told me he’s looking for something serious, eventually a wife and kids. I guess I just need to fall back
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Dating for girl on a girls or gays is different from heterosexual couples. It will never be the same. 2ppl with more estrogen is highly emotional generally. 2 guys with testosterone diff. ( yes as always, one is usually more feminine in relationship but they still have the biological part, unless they taking hormone replacement) . Any way guys are not the same as women. Guys commit when they see the one for them or if their desperate they'll take whatever and extra child. Just cause they take on another man's child don't mean they a Saint and great man vice versa. Most men don't want to take on another man's kid. Not financially and not emotionally depending on age of kid, kids give attitude.. if u have a boy, that boy just might grow up resent him as bf , if he's not the dad of his dreams. I've been on both sides abs I know enough to know that, you're young in dating world. Unless the guy is from culturally family valued country, most guys will wait out or stick around until the one they want shows up
4 months of talking is investment to you, he's just talking. We don't know if you talk about love you, I like u, ur amazing flowery comments or I miss u, wanna see u again etc..2hrs of a drive is nothing even with demanding job unless ur the one busy because u have child. If the dad is a great dad and there is no conflict, then great keep dating but this guy doesn't seem invested enough because he doesn't have enough exposure to u and he could of visited more or u meet halfway sometimes but if u slept together that 1weekend and the next day u ask him if he's exclusive.. guys know after sex if they still want u around and if they like ur company and can't wait to see u again.. this seems dry , no enthusiasm? Ya u could commit to sex but it would be that situationship ( no goal no end and you can still hang out in stuationship) . He's not it. But we don't see any emotional investment from u and how much u like himand want him either etcso ur both dry on fence waiting for something else 🤷♀️
Ps.ur not friends.. friends don't sleep with each other.. if u were friendsthen every friend is a sexual potential and you're friends with benefits of sex and if you need or want it that way then, it's OK, as long as ur OK with him walking away or being with other women. But if sleeping with him will make u catch more feelings( which usually it does for women... don't do that to urself) Alsoif u have akid or a baby then you have think of influence and what they see and they get attached if someone comes in and then disappears even after 1 or 2 meets, if kid is 3 or 4, they know and remember and ask about the guy they saw that was their* friend / ur friend * I've been there once. Never again
I definitely do like him and I think we have a really good connection. Again I don’t think you guys are understanding that I’m not asking him to lock down on me and be my boyfriend but I think the real issue is the lack of effort for dates and maybe he doesn’t really like me but he expresses so much about how much he does in person. Because at this rate we will probably only have 3 dates in 6 months with the current track record. Our last date was February and we’ve only seen each other in April
We literally had a review before he left and he feels like the connection we have is one you don’t get often and how our intimate interaction has given him a sense of satisfaction that could last him months and he isn’t looking for that anywhere else but can’t agree to keep the sex in house but He often speaks about how he barely has time off at work because he works as a police officer
Which is why we don’t meet often
He's not interested enough. Really, truly, he isn't. Invested ppl 2hrs away, drive over every weekend at minimum. Or every other weekend He's not that busy that he has wait 2 months at a time. Boy bye.. I had visits every weekend almost 2hr trip there and back same day even . He did leave for few months for work in other city but came back. I had akid but really.. it's not that hard with his demanding job. They get 12hr shifts here.. no idea what he gets but maybe he works 247 cause he is new.... no idea, he's not motivated enough. And women drop for officers all time, they drool on them, just uniform, even if he's average. He's satisfied by you , like Intimacy, what conversation companionship,? And then sexually by someone else? If ur OK with him waiting months to see u, guess u see each other every few months
How old are you ? Long distance and texting isn't enough. 1or 2 times of meeting.. unless ur both 45 then he's too grown to commit to air mail..physical intimacy and meeting more than once in 6weeks. . It's too short of time. Ask him about sexual intimacy and frequency, does it matter to him. They lie either way.2hrs is not far compared to 5 or 6hrs but unless he's a young guy in 20s.. he's going to want intimacy more than once in 3 months. I think girls usually think, sleeping once together is official. To guys they sleep on Anything, some just want companionship and intimacy and can wait it out others won't tell u truth and its silence. Meaning Anything goes unless u ask him, after asking him how much intimacyhe's wanting and what he's lookingfor... say* hey I'm looking for sexually being intimate with one guy and are you thinkingsame or need time or open and free ....* not extract words but it's the boundary eg. drawing -are you coloring inside lines or outside and coloring other ppls drawing etc