Guilt

Oh yeah totally normal, I miss my son soooo much 🥺

We are in the exact same boat! Since having our 2nd, I’ve been with my newborn all the time as I am EBF. My husband will look after our 1st - he drops and picks him up from nursery, we eat together (breakfast, lunch and dinner) if I’m not breastfeeding, then he will do bath and bedtime with our son - This was something I really enjoyed doing until he started asking for daddy. I think also, since my husband has taken most of looking after our son, he has been only asking for daddy which upsets me because I miss him so, so much. I’m sure him only asking for daddy will eventually phase out and I try to remind myself it’s temporary but I just can’t brush the guilt off. It makes things a lot harder because I miss him as well.

Yes I feel the same! I had a section last week so can’t pick my toddler up and it’s just breaking my heart ☹️ my husband passes her to me to sit next to me etc, but I’m not quite at the point of getting on the floor and playing with her yet and I feel so guilty for it!

Yeh my little girl just asks for daddy all the time and rolls around playing with him constantly and I just feel like I’m standing at the sidelines watching I also feel like she feels she doesn’t have a mummy anymore which is obviously crazy and she knows I’m here but I fear she’s thinking well this is the new normal I don’t have a mum as much anymore I obviously don’t want my husbands paternity leave to end because he has been such a good help but I also can’t wait to do everything for my daughter again which I know will be super hard

I have days where I miss our old life and our old dynamic. I feel like I’m upsetting our toddler by not giving him the time I could. But then I think he will probably never remember not having a sister now and his life before her. He also loves that he has a new baby sister and as they grow I can’t wait to watch them together. You’ve given your toddler the best gift in the world. I just try to carve out one on one time with him each day no matter how big or small that is. You’re doing your best and your bond with your daughter will always be strong 💕 x