Reason you think you miscarried

Hi! I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and 10 weeks in a row - I don’t know what I did wrong either! Then last month I had an early miscarriage. I feel horrible :( sorry for your loss x

I also miscarried at 11 weeks. The doctors said the same thing to me, no heart beat. They told me that it was nothing I did, it just happens. I was also very stressed with work and personal so I am convinced it was that. I’m sorry for your loss.

Firstly so sorry you’re going through this, it’s horrible. I have had 3 early miscarriages now, drs have always explained to me that it just wasn’t a viable pregnancy, meaning something just wasn’t right with the baby, and it’s your body’s way of rejecting it sadly. After having lots of investigations I have something called adenmyosis which can make the uterus lining a bit jaggered, so placenta can’t get enough blood. But they don’t know that causes miscarriages for sure. It’s very frustrating that so much of this stuff is unknown and under researched. 🤞🏻

With my second pregnancy, I didn't know i was pregnant and strained myself hauling a solid wooden dresser up the stairs when moving. Started bleeding the next day

I got pneumonia and didn't realise how unwell I was. I did go to the doctor a few times but should have gone back more. It's horrible not knowing if baby might have been OK if I'd just rested, stopped working, asked for help with my toddler... Generally, these things aren't down to anything you did or didn't do. In my case, I think maybe I was a bit to blame but mostly it's just not a viable pregnancy.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a MMC at 10 weeks. I have a son who is 2. I also thought the way you are. But I was told numerous times it could have been anything and I did nothing wrong. I was also picking up my toddler and dealing with the stress of tantrums etc but was told this would not cause miscarriage. I have had bad anxiety since my son was born so I don't know if that influenced it. I also moved house the day after finding out I was pregnant. I was taking my pregnancy vitamins too. I did everything I did with my first accept picking up a toddler. It's hard not to blame yourself. Xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss! I have been through the process of questioning everything I did and wondering whether it was my fault. As Zoe says above, it’s unlikely to have been our fault. 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and most are due to unavoidable chromosome abnormalities. The only thing I feel like I can do next time round is make sure I’m improving my egg quality and husbands sperm quality through diet and lifestyle changes plus supplements, to reduce the risk of any abnormalities in the future, that way I feel like I have some control. But it’s so so hard not to blame yourself, I totally feel you x

I wondered this as well. I ran through every little thing I did, trying to work out what I did wrong. I had a wonderful chat with my doctor about this very question, and his answer was very simple: I did nothing wrong. If I could go back in time and change everything, the result would still be the same. My baby just wasn't meant for this world.