Shit sex life

it makes me so sad to see these posts. I know you don't want to use devices all the time but if you have an interest in staying faithful, and if he just can't manage to go longer, then devices or him using hands and/or mouth seem to be your only options. you can try something like a sex store supplement (don't get the one from the gas stations!) and see if he can go multiple rounds maybe, but thats not a frequent or long term solution.

I think you need to see a sex therapist. There could be multiple explanations for this and it's not possible to tell you good advice without an assessment

@Lyss are you sure he's an abuser? He might have some circulation problems or something else

Relationship/marriage will never be a fairytale. There will be times that require for you to work even harder to make things work. The solution here isn’t to find sex elsewhere, when a problem arises in marriage running away from it does not solve it. I understand it is frustrating that your sexual desire or not met but he is right on telling you it is not fair to go elsewhere. Intimacy is vital in a relationship but it also requires work and to up keep the excitement. Maybe he’s going through some underlying medical issues, maybe he’s struggling with the new changes. Communication is key, work as a team to make things better and not seek it elsewhere. I’m only advising this because ever relationship will have a rocky road and what unites you both is how you overcome the problem together as a team.

@Mary if a man has circulation problems then he can go to a doctor. And if he cared for his partner he can do things to here that don’t require penis going inside of her. Foreplay goes a long way and if he truly loved her he would take her feedback and figure something else out and not leave her feeling like she has to look elsewhere.

@Lyss but she's his first partner, he was a virgin before her. He probably has no idea how to satisfy a woman yet. That doesn't make him abusive

my bd was like this for 2 years also. i have no advice. i stayed loyal and funnily enough the was the one that cheated many times

He may not feel comfortable talking about why he cums so quickly and should probably talk to a sex therapist. Or any therapist to be fair. Does be at least try to get you to come even after he has cum via oral or fingers if he can't via his penis? Some men do cum quickly when it's been a while or if they haven't been practicing mindful wanking (most men will watch porn and don't realise how over stimulating it is and will find self pleasuring boring without it if they're that deep into the porn pit). If its purely physical and he just get too excited maybe use a condom that numbs them a bit, I can't remember what they're called as I've not used them but I know durex do ones to help them last longer and it's because it slightly numbs them

Is there foreplay involved at all, or is it just penetration? Maybe try some more foreplay targeted for u. My husband pretty much makes sure I always orgasm first and then him, not because he doesn't last but he gets pleasure from pleasuring me.

If you love this person, I would exhaust all options to improve the quality of your sex. However, if your partner or yourself are unwilling, it’s time to stop investing in the relationship. Everyone deserves to have a fulfilling sex life.