Depression

Hold it against you how? Like what implication are you afraid that would have?

Absolutely not! With the right team of professionals, they will give you extra resources during pregnancy and postpartum to help you feel supported. The emotional changes from the hormones are a lot to go through.

I’ve told my drs every pregnancy ( I do take antidepressants during pregnancy) but it shouldn’t be a problem that they know it’s best that they know to keep an eye out if you get symptoms this pregnancy

@Nicole like they can twist my words for something that has happened 7 years ago

@Sophia so they cant hold that against me at any point in my pregnancy and post partum ? My mil is scaring me into thinking they will medically hold my child

I've struggled with anxiety and depression most of my adult life. Telling my OB was probably one of the best things I could have done for myself and my first pregnancy. She knew to genuinely ask: Are you ok? How are you feeling emotionally? Do we need to talk about medication? It never came from a judgemental or condescending place. She genuinely cared and wanted me to be ok and help me. If your provider won't support you and your mental health journey, YOU are absolutely not the problem your provider is. 🩷

@Dani my mil scared me into saying i shouldn’t have said that! And now im freaking out that it was said

No, that's not professional to hold it against you. Every medical professional is obligated to The Hippocratic Oath. If anything, keeping that open communication between you and your medical team will allow them to have a better understanding of your potential mental health needs and will be there to both support you and lend extra resources. I work for a big name hospital so I'm very aware of this process. I see postpartum mamas ALL the time. Please, please tune out your MIL! You dont need the added stress from someone who *thinks* they know what they are talking about. 🙏🏻

@Sophia she had me under the impression my son will be taken away from me and it will be held against me medically.

If at ANY point in time you don't feel fully 100% supported with any of your needs or feel judged, you're in your right to change your medical team asap. Please always remember that.

Nah definitely not. I've been hospitalized for depression 3 times over a decade ago and it's never raised any eyebrows at the pediatrician. In fact my son's pediatrician can't even see my medical history. My drs may be able to see mine but as long as your children are well and unharmed, no one can hold that against you. If you only knew that some doctors themselves have some of the worst mental health issues and are not always great parents you would know that's just really nothing to worry about. Sorry you have a shitty MIL. But also, join the club. Don't let her words have power over you.

@Jane shes not shitty lol. Just old school

No they won’t. Please ignore your MIL

let’s not act like medical providers have never jumped to conclusions and called DHS after a baby was born. especially if this person is melanated. this is not to scare you sweetie but i purposely am omitting similar info because i’m not playing with their assumptions. there’s a reason they always ask if you or anyone around you has issues with alcohol or drugs. i know someone who lost custody of her baby for a year because the baby had brain bleeds and they assumed she was being abused (mother was black). they later found it was not caused by abuse. she won’t get that time back with her daughter though. you’re not crazy to be scared, but like these comments, you should be fine if you don’t present threat. and you can always change providers at your will if you suspect they’re likely to give you problems. i wish you the best!