Break, what's that?

Nope. My son will be 3m old on the 17th and he was away from me for 2 hours in the hospital and 2 weeks ago I had to leave him in the middle of the night to take my dad's dog to emergency vet. I was gone 3 hours and I was a wreck the whole time. I was literally blowing up my husband every 20 mins. It is isolating. I'm doing something for me on Saturday and getting a new tattoo. My son and husband will be with me because I'm not ready to leave my son again. Plus my tattoo Artist is a good friend of mine And told me I better bring him with, but I definitely know where you're coming from

I feel this so much! Me and my husband dont have anyone who will help so we literally never get a break. He at least works so he gets just adult interaction but I don’t. It’s really hard. I have mental health issues as well and I think a lot of it is linked to never having a break

Have to work on time management and make sure you give yourself time for self care so your cup can refill and you are able to give more to your child by being in the correct mindset

i feel this! we have no family near by so no one to watch my daughter. luckily i have an amazing partner who helps me a lot, recently i started going to yoga classes in the mornings and weekends to get some time for myself

I have a couple relatives that have/would watch my kids. But I’m pregnant with my 3rd so I imagine it will be harder to get someone to watch all 3. We’ll see. Hired a sitter once and it went well so i plan to utilize that again if necessary. My husband, if he’s home, will watch the kids if I have plans which is not all that often. Most of my plans are with him so I’ll ask relatives weeks in advance to try to secure a sitter.

No breaks here. My husband is a truck driver and is gone 4 days out of the week. When he gets home we don’t do anything without our three kids really because obviously that’s their time to be around him and our family time. I’ve never had a sitter besides my mom and sisters every once and awhile but not really anymore. I would never put them in daycare because I trust no one around my kids and I also homeschool them so I definitely can relate. 😅

My Mom will watch my daughter here and there but it's pretty far a few between because of her jobs and it's usually only for a few hours. My husband will watch her while I'm in class a couple nights a week but it's online and I'm literally in the next room and still have to answer questions and help out. I do go to a moms group twice a month for 1.5 hours and they have childcare. It's nice to have time alone with other Moms. It's called MomCo and they have groups all over. The only time I get legit time to myself is when everyone goes to bed.

@Desie same. His sisters and Mom live fairly close to where we live, and they claim, "all you gotta do is call, and I'll help you" but yet when we do(which is not that often) it's always a problem.

@Bella how do you do that when you and your partner literally have no help? *I'm sorry if that sounded sarcastic, didn't mean it that way*

I got pretty lucky with my fiancé. He works during the day while I stay at home with the kids. We don’t get any help because we live 4 hours away from any family so it’s just us. During their naps I’ll sit and watch a bit of tv. Once they’re in bed at night and their dad’s home we both split the chores. But I find it’s fun to include them in tasks I like to do, painting, crafting, baking. That way I’m still doing some activities I want to be doing but in a way they can get involved as well

i leave the kid with dad for a few hours and doordash or just bring my dog for a walk.. i mean its not the break i want (which is like tropical paradise vacation) but i will take anything i can get.

I have 2 dance lessons a week (the Friday lesson is followed by a social dance in the club followed by Reggaeton music aka Latin night) and I’ll see a friend Sat night. We both have one hobby day and one friend catch-up a week. He has bowling league Wednesdays, and we alternate weeks seeing a friend Sat nights. I have dance Tuesdays and Fridays, but this Friday 2 gfs are coming to meet me there and do some salsa lessons w me (I’ve been attending for 2yrs straight, my weekly reprieve/hobby) If you have gfs to see, make a lunch/dinner/drinks plans w them on the weekends, they are my breaks. We have a date night monthly. I get small breaks weekly, I don’t need a whole weekend but half a Friday night is good enough for me.

If I want to go out with my mates then my husband will look after the kids but if me and him want to do something it’s a big problem it’s soooo hard because I only trust 2 people my sister or my good friend and sometimes my sister can’t be bothered to watch my kids so we never really get time together

I have 5 kids. Nobody and I mean nobody watches them but me and their dad. They’re also homeschooled. Anytime someone used to watch them, when there was say 3 of them, they’d always make us feel rushed and or be shitty about it afterwards so we stopped asking. X

Yes gurl you are not alone at all. It’s mf HARD. It sucks ssa and idk how ppl do it without a struggle. I feel like screaming and crying every day

I don't have family or friends in the state i live in. I have a very active, almost 1 yr old and I'm currently 2mos pregnant. My husband works on the road so I'm always alone. No breaks. And when my husband is home, I usually just catch up on sleep 🤷‍♀️ My mind and body are both exhausted.

Def feel this. Even if I have a little break it doesn’t feel like a break because all I can think about is my baby and coming home to him

Definitely. I never feel like I have a break. My son has never stayed overnight anywhere without me and if I don't have him for a few hours it's because I need to do chores etc. He's 2 and still doesn't sleep through so I feel I can't rest at night either x

@Victoria omg girl it’s like I’m reading my own post! Hubs is trucker. Gone 4am Monday-Friday afternoon/evening. His time home is with our kids and baseball 🤣 we do nothing. Get no help or breaks, it’s tough. Gotta try to somehow make time for the relationship ya know?!!! We all need self care. It’s soooo hard though.

@Tacy Yes girl, it’s so tough, gets very lonely!! It’s so nice to be able to relate to someone. We should be so proud of ourselves though, how strong are we?!! 💪🏾👏🏾❤️

How aboutSAHM with a once a week partner 😅 and like only have a babysitter during my mental Health appointments. But just to get a break nahh