Lost My Savings Supporting My Partner – Just Need to Vent

Feeling Drained – Just Need to Vent and Maybe Some Advice Hey ladies, just need to vent and see if anyone’s been through something similar. A few weeks before my baby was due, my boyfriend quit his job. He mentioned a friend he could work with who was earning decent money, and at first, he made a bit here and there. But money started getting tight, and he slowly began relying on me for bills, food shopping, and more. I didn’t mind at first—I love him, and I wanted to support us as a team. But months have passed, and it’s been me covering everything—water, gas, food—while adjusting to life as a new mum. I’d worked so hard and saved thousands during my pregnancy so I could enjoy my maternity leave without stress. Now, 6 months later, that savings is nearly gone. He’s been “looking for work” for the last two months, but nothing’s come of it yet. I’m now living off Universal Credit, trying to stretch it for two people when it’s meant for one. He gives me maybe £40-£60 a month when he can, but it’s not enough to lighten the load. What breaks my heart is that I feel like all the hard work I put in during pregnancy has just vanished—and I have nothing left for myself. My birthday’s next month and I can’t do anything. Summer’s coming and I don’t even know if I can afford to do anything fun with my baby. I feel so guilty, so tired, and honestly, I just want to cry. I wish I had kept some of my savings to myself and not shared everything with him. Has anyone been in a similar position? I don’t even know what advice I need—I just feel stuck and needed to let it out. I just want my money back and I was spending so much cause he kept telling me money is going to come in for him soon and nothing has !! I love him but I’m so upset and when I say anything he always saying I’m dashing things back in his face.

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Men like that will only be a burden and make you go into debt and have constant stress. He is a grown ass man and is unreliable, selfish and financially irresponsible, please consider staying with him unless he actually shows a positive change. You’ll be stuck with this fool if you allow yourself to accept it

My advice is NEVER tell anyone you have savings. You clearly can't trust him. It looks like he's using you and taking advantage. Tell him you have nothing left and watch what he does. If he doesn't get himself together quickly, leave him, that will be the catalyst to him getting himself together. No matter what, no man should be putting his woman through that, especially after she has a baby with him. Shame on him. A real man gets his act together before his baby is born. He should've been prepared, but he chose not to. Red flag.

You will get your savings back plus more. ✨️🙏🏾

Literally he could get a job if he really wanted to there’s plenty of delivery/admin/cleaning/retail/call center/factory even construction jobs out there once you get a card, he has no excuse, I’d also say you’re totally out and see what he does, I’d also consider leaving/moving in with your own family and friends he really does seem like a burden

You will rebuild your saving back up . Just focus on you & the baby . Put more responsibility on him

I’d write it all down and tell him how much he owes you and give him a bill

Some men will take as much as you allow them take. He clearly knew you had savings, he clearly knew he had you to fall back on which is why he hasn’t gotten any type of job. I love my husband and he is very hardworking bless him, but I would still keep emergency money on the side that he won’t know about so he doesn’t rely on it and it will only be used for emergencies, not for him to spend or quit his job.

Yeah I hate to say it but I know when things were tight with me and my husband years ago… he was out there working 3 jobs at once at one point whilst I was working 2 and at uni. (This is projected towards your partner) I appreciate it SUCKS when life doesn’t feel like it’s handing you the job you want or feel you’re qualified for but unless you have a solid plan or a legit job offer coming your way.. you just have to knuckle down and take anything and everything available!😔 One good idea is delivery driving whether that be for a local takeaway or a bigger business as you can get hours that can work around a second job just to see you’s through x

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