Withholding sex

…on who’s part? Cause it seems like you are intentionally trying to do something he doesn’t want. Thats coercion control on you. Yall need to talk

It sounds like he doesn’t trust you. He probably thinks because you want a second child and he doesn’t that you’re going to intentionally fall pregnant. That being said, he could always wear a condom to ensure his side of protection is in place if you aren’t on birth control. But if he doesn’t want a second child, accidents happen, the only way to ensure he doesn’t end up with a second child is by not having sex I guess 🤷‍♀️

Based on what u said nothing abusive is happening he’s allowed to refuse if he’s afraid you may become pregnant when that is not what he wants. Definitely talk to him and maybe see if he’d be down to have a baby later on and for now you two can put protection in place to avoid pregnancy.

Why are you not using protection?

Use condoms. Would be extremely foolish to have kids with a man that doesn’t want them

I mean sex is part of the relationship, if he doesn’t want another child, does that mean no more sex forever? It’s definitely not emotional abuse/control but the best thing would be is for him to have a vasectomy and in this case plenty sex and no babies. If he changes his mind down the line then he can reverse it and have another child.

How is this abuse?! Cmon! He clearly doesn't trust you to not deceive him, but then if he's adamant he doesn't want any more kids he should wear a condom!

It's not controlling to have his wishes respected and to take precautions, perhaps he doesn't trust that you won't try to fall pregnant without his knowledge? I was ready for baby #1 far sooner than my partner was and for a time he just insisted on using protection and I respected it, never made him feel bad once because he has a choice just like I do as to what happens to his body and the consequences of such. If you think he's controlling by doing this, you probably need help.