Loss of libido

When our baby was first born the first 6 weeks my sex drive was still semi active and despite wanting to I made my husband wait the suggested 6 weeks and then it ended up being 3 weeks after that because he got ill and I needed to let my pill kick in. We tried once and got to be honest I was so uncomfortable with the physical changes and the constant need to check on the baby that it just wasn't great and since then my sex drive has taken an extended holiday. My husband very subtly mentioned today that it's been a while, not in a trying to force the issue way more as a matter of fact and I just said sorry I've not been feeling it which he was very accepting of. Pre baby I had a high sex drive and it was always for us an important part of our relationship and right now we're really struggling to connect sometimes we don't even get the chance to talk about things because by the time the baby has gone down for the night which is the only time we can were too exhausted. I know it's probably normal it's just feels like another part of my identity that's been stripped away and I don't know how to come to terms with the fact that I feel like my entire body has been replaced. Not sure what I want out of this post just needed to vent
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I feel the same

I didn’t have sex for about a year after my first, I had stitches and we tried and it was so uncomfortable. It honestly took a year for me to be able to again, and then it took time for it to be completely pain free. This time round no stiches, and we had sex after 5 weeks and I was completely fine. Take your time, there’s no rush, having a baby changes everything about your life but you will start seeing your normal self return xx

I get the feeling, I’ve lost my libido completely and I’m almost 4 months pp

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