No contact and death

I’m so sorry for your loss. Even though you’ve been no contact with your brother, he’s still your brother so you can still grieve for him. Drug addiction is like a disease, a very sad life. I don’t know how bad he got, but he’s now at peace and not at the mercy of his addiction. Would you consider talking to a counsellor to talk through your feelings?

@Jade💃🏻 thanks. I’m in therapy for the death of my mother and best friend within a year of each other. She’s just off for the next week for vacation

He was still your brother it’s ok to grieve

Definitely normal to feel sad. We went no contact with some family members probably 30 years ago and I still couldn't stop thinking about my aunt when I learned she'd passed. Even had a vivid dream about her coming to say good bye. Like we'd never get a chance to make up.

You can be no contact with people and still get saddened by their death. I’m no contact with people because they’re not good for me, but if they died, I would cry, just like I cried when I went no contact. It’s good you’re in therapy to talk about it.

So for you loss it very confusing I lost my dad last year I was no contact since I was a teenager and it sucks I was still sad and cried I think for it's more the fact of what could have been that upset me because his addiction took over his life because of the good memories we shared personally It a very strange experience because I feel silly in some way for being sad because they haven't been in my life for so long but it's perfectly normal to be sad

He’s stil your brother ! Be odd if you didn’t feel sad !

@Hannah I completely get this. I feel dumb for being said. He’s 8 years older and has been an addict since I was a teen. I feel so conflicted in feelings.

Sorry that you're going through this, it's normal to feed sad and go through the stages of mourning. It's difficult having a loved one lost, especially to addiction. You can always say what you want in prayers and pray for strength and for his soul. 🩷🙏🏽 my condolences.

It is so confusing because they was still a big part of your life I think when someone in addiction you always have hope they will get better and be the person you love but when they die your never getting that so for me personally that what I found hardest i was never getting my dad back the one I wanted and feel free to message me if you wanted to talk about it