Question for my stepmom’s or mother figures to your significant others kids

So I’m currently in a relationship with my two youngest daughters father . No gonna lie lately things have been good between me and him . So when I got pregnant with my second born which is his second born he has a older daughter and my second would be his second but anywho when I was pregnant with her me nd him took a break from each other. Due to us constantly butting heads so I ended up finding out that he got another women pregnant but leave it to him he says he left her for me and around the time I got pregnant she had found out she was pregnant so to make it simple he has two kids one by me and one by another women that are both 5 years old. It took a lot of time for me to accept that I can’t do anything about it took just face the fact she’s here . But older now and mature than ever and I just want my daughters to know their sister. Me and my bd have been building with our relationship again since October 2024 and he stays with me full time now due to my job and helping me with the kids. He recently had his daughter come over for spring break and moms I couldn’t be happier having her here has made me happier than ever she such a sweetheart and he’s see how attached she is becoming to me I just fear her mom doesn’t know she spent her spring break at my house. I been involving his daughter in everything me and my girls do and everyone is happy but it would break my heart if her moms doesn’t know and isn’t happy with her being here

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From a mums POV she should 100% know where her daughter is staying?? You just said your partner basically lives with you and you saying his kids mum potentially doesn’t know that?? That’s on your partner to tell her surely.

@Hollie I worded it wrong but I as a mother I myself would want to know as well but I wish I had a way to talk to her mom and just even tell her like we don’t have to go through him for the girls to spend time together and to let her know there’s no ill feelings and I care for her daughter too but again that’s his bm he should tell her I just don’t think he will

I would sneak in his phone and get her number. Or even just ask him directly to give it to you so ya’ll can have that open communication

U should def talk to him about telling her. That’s something I’d want to know. After which u can ask for her number or ask if u all can meet up so she can get to meet u before things take a turn. She might find out on her own and flip out because she’s never met u and nobody informed her

@Jody Imma have this conversation with him and if he doesn’t agree with me then his daughter has her mom iPad imma put my number in in nd message myself and explain to her that I need this conversation to stay between us

@Melanie last time I went in his phone we just started talking and I found something’s I wasn’t prepared to see

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