Independent sleeping

I will stay with my kid as long as he needs me to. It’s biologically normal for a child to need assistance to fall asleep. I have no idea why we expect kids to be so independent…

my little girl who’s 6 in june has to have me stay with her until she drops to sleep & i will always do it until she doesn’t need me anymore as it doesn’t last forever, it’s also mine & hers special time just us two since her little brother arrived x

I stay in the bedroom until my 3 year old has fallen to sleep, and if he wakes in the night we go to him to comfort him until he falls asleep. He sometimes sleeps in our bed too if he needs it (last two nights he's been ill so has slept in our beds all night). I think he's far too young for me to just send him to his room alone to sleep. My parents never took me to bed and left me to go to bed and sleep by myself because they believed I was a good sleeper. I have really bad memories of trying to get to sleep alone and feeling scared and lonely I often had nightmares and this is from when I was older than what my son is now.

My step son is 4, 5 in September and has been falling asleep independently for a while now. He come into my life at 2 and I used to read him a story and sing him to sleep at that stage. I stopped because me being in the room became a distraction. He would talk to me instead of settling and it was actually keeping him awake. So we moved, to story, song and tuck in. Tbh he'd probably tell us to go now if we tried. Now I've got a baby, it would be impossible to manage. Following Jess's comment I would clarify that he is 100% taken to bed every night. Routine, wee, brush teeth and Story in bed. Story if his sister isn't screaming. I don't expect him to go UP alone but once there he's tucked in and we leave the room.