Would you swipe on someone with real born babies but no living children?

Can you clarify what a real born baby is? Sorry to be ignorant... just curious x

I’m looking for friends although have kind of given up. Personally I wouldn’t but it depends on their overall profile.

You mean a reborn?

@Suzie they are babies that look alive. They essentially look “real”. I know the term reborn but I guess they can be called real borns. They are usually for people coping with baby loss or dementia. Some people who can’t have kids and such.

@🩷 Patience 🩷 Oh how interesting! Thank you

@🩷 Patience 🩷 Yes thank you! I knew I’d didn’t look right when I reread it 🤦‍♀️

I personally wouldn't as I'd fins d the situation too wierd, like would they expect me to talk about their reborn doll as if it was a real baby? Compare it to my son? Od feel so strange pretending - also wouldn't want to freak my son out of she wanted to meet up etc. Sorry if that seems mean, I know they help alot of people, but for me it wouldn't feel right xxx

Sorry for the amount of typos, I was typing too fast and didn't check it before I pressed send 🙈

Yah I actually would. I’m bonding and seeing if I click with the adult….so that’s kind of all that matters 😂😂 also, I have friends who have kids and our kids don’t get along. My husband has some friends that I don’t care for and our kids get along well. So…sometime you can or can’t get a full on match with a family. So I no longer hunt for full compatibility on this app or in real life. I don’t know why folks find these to be weird. You’re probably bffs with someone who’s done something very very fucking weird. Everyone has a quirk about them and if it’s not harming and killing folks….then do you boo. But you’re entitled to not swipe on someone for whatever. So don’t feel bad about a choice you have made for yourself and children.

I'm sorry but someone like that obviously has some issues I don't think I can empathize with, it would probably make me feel weird.

Completely agree, I'd just be anxious about how to act and what they would expect from me xxx

i understand the concept and i try not to judge those who use reborn babies to cope with loss bc people all have different ways of grieving but the whole idea of treating them like real life babies & talking about them as such makes me very uncomfortable so no i would not.

I’d be open to being friends with them. Some people like dolls (in some situations it can be a little scary) but some women use them to remember their lost babies. I’ve heard some women say it helps them with the grieving process. But I’d just be open to it because you never know the situation and grief is not something you can just openly inquire/talk about imo. It’s hard to guess the temperature

Unpopular opinion and I mean this in the absolute nicest way possible but I just think if you’re at the point where you feel like you have to have a reborn doll for anything other than just a hobby, you need professional help. I’ve heard that some people recommend them as a kind of “therapy” but I can’t help but feel like it’s such an unhealthy coping mechanism. Like some reborn doll owners literally set alarms to get up in the night, pretending their babies woke them up. I just think they need actual therapy. Some even buy formula and everything. I just think it’s not healthy but that’s my opinion. It’s like they can’t let go of the trauma so they live in a fantasy world which is unhealthy imo. I feel total sympathy for those who have them due to child loss etc but this is not going to help. It’s like feeding into a delusion. So I just think I personally couldn’t be friends with someone who owns one like that because I couldn’t sit there pretending it’s a real baby when it isn’t.

Idk I hope the person with the profile you're talking about doesn't see this post. I'm not sure what the point of it is? You're allowed to swipe whoever you want but if it was me and I saw a poll made about me, with the main result saying people wouldn't want to connect with me, then comments about it... It wouldn't feel great. Did you make the poll to feel better about not swiping because others wouldn't either? I don't get it.

i think so, everyone who struggles with loss or grief deals with it in their own way, it’s very personal. wouldn’t judge but i’d see if we get along :)

@Rachel it's just a topic of discussion she probably wanted to see what others thought about it, I bring up topic all the time amongst my friends especially things we came across on social media

When my grandma passed away I got her doll and it is what I think would be a reborn (skin feels real and it’s got the weight of a real baby). Sometimes it’s comforting to lay it on my chest and remember when my 3 year old was actually that size. My 3 year old also pretends it’s a baby (giving big sis vibes). I don’t think it’s weird unless the person actually think it’s real 👀 cause it could be a way they’re reminiscing about their own baby (not everyone posts pics of their actual kid) or she could be coping with a loss of one. As long as she didn’t actually think it was alive👀, than I’d be fine with it. If she doesn’t have her own child, she’s probably trying for one. She may not be a “mom” friend now, but she clearly has that interest/could be trying.

@Becky I agree with you. I think why and the extent really matters.

This app is for mothers who are TTC as well. I wouldn’t swipe on someone who is currently trying for a baby. I’m looking to connect with moms on all walks of life (:

@S. annalese I feel like once my kids are older and they aren’t with me 24/7 I’ll be more open to just friends for me lol

Yeah I’ve heard they can really help people with dementia. This makes me really sad for people that use them for therapy.

I might yeah. But I’d be more inclined to invite her out at night for drinks and dinner maybe some dancing, to help her socialise and heal more.

It depends really. Like she collects them and keeps them at home, then sure. But if she’s going to be taking them with us on our outings, and changing and feeding and behaving as if it’s a baby, I think I’d be a little too creeped by it all. I’m so sorry.

I probably wouldn’t. I wouldn’t feel comfortable especially bringing my children along to meet her. I also would struggle to connect as I cannot relate. I think at that stage a mum would need professional help rather than a shoulder and I cannot be either.