Anyone who didn’t sleep train? How we all doing?

Didn't train Instead I figured out what he needed for deep sleep and we've never looked back

My son has never been a good sleeper. I have tried a number of things. It’s just bad - he sleeps like his dad unfortunately. I’m very tired. I couldn’t do cry it out. I tried a version where you go in at timed intervals but honestly couldn’t do it. I will accept any tips like deep pressure, dark, no screen time before bed, sound machine, have a routine, etc. these are some of the things I’ve done.

Coslept until my son was 14 months! He started not to sleep well next to me anymore and would rather focus on playing with my hair during the night instead of sleeping 😅 so we did the Ferber method sleep training. It worked great for us! It was definitely emotionally difficult for myself in the beginning, but he took to it by night 3 or 4. We had setbacks from teething or routine disruptions from traveling but would just restart the Ferber method. I would say around 20 months the Ferber method stopped working (he was too smart and would know we’d keep coming back if he just cried) so we did have to resort to “cry it out” which did work and he would get back on track with self soothing. The last set back we had was January of this year at 25 months because we had traveled AND his last set of molars were coming in. It took 3-4 weeks for him to get back to normal sleep but we DID make it back to it! Hes able to put himself back to sleep in the middle of the night if he does wake.

We’ve also had a few toys/stuffed animals that we would hand him when putting him to bed that have a light/play music. I believe they’ve helped to soothe him as he winds down but also keep him slightly entertained if he’s not quite ready for sleep when we do put him to bed. He will usually fall asleep in 30mins to an hour after we put him down for bed.

We also have the hatch sleep machine that plays music/white noise and has a colored nightlight. We have ours red through the night so if my son does wake in the night and sees it’s red that it is still bed time. We have it turn green when it’s wake up time! So he knows we’re coming to his room shortly once it has turned green.

@Elizabeth My Little likes warm so we got a wall space heater to keep room at 75*.. Likes it pitch dark so double triple layer black out curtains.. Likes 3 blankets (He counts them).. He's basically a bear 🐻 Now likes a stuffy.. 1 book.. & his lullaby bunny that plays music which is kept outside the crib.. He also gets a sippy cup (it's a cup but a sippy without a spout so not bad on teeth) of water.. He sleeps 9 pm to 9 am & occasionally wakes for his water but rarely needs me

Still cosleeping with my lo and doing great. She’s been a good sleeper at night since the very beginning bc of cosleeping, and I let her dream feed whenever she wants. She would comfort nurse anywhere from 1-5 times a night, and Ik that sounds awful to some, but since this experience I’m truly convinced that’s the way our bodies were designed if we just gave in to the process it’d make our lives so much easier😅 I’d sleep with no bra and she’d latch on her own whenever she wanted. I’d wake up a little, but be able to go right back to sleep. So I never felt super sleep deprived. She finally stoped nursing at 26mo, and immediately started sleeping fully through the night with no issues, but I still keep her in bed with me. I’m also 7.5mo pregnant and plan to do the same this time around.

My husband or I lays in our 2 year olds bed with him or on the floor until he falls asleep we cuddle him or whatever he needs to fall asleep and leave when he falls asleep. Most of the time he sleeps through the night in his bed sometimes he comes into our room in the middle of the night and we let him sleep with us. We try to keep the bed time routine consistent so he knows what to expect.