Advice please!!

I really think this is something he should have been honest with you about from the get go. Like yes he was free to do as he pleased cos he was single, but it would feel like an omission to me if I’d been kept in the dark about it. How did you find out? Did he come out and admit it?

@Catherine he admitted it to an extent, he told the women his reasoning for ending things with her was because I came back in to his life - she then somehow found me and messaged me apologising She sent me endless screenshots of messages between them both which is when I found out he lied, he did lie about a lot and I keep saying to him, if I just knew the truth from the get go it would have been fine. I find myself questioning EVERYTHING now

I would feel exactly the same way. I suppose you just need to think and decide whether this is something that you can eventually move past or if there is too much damage done? I know my friends have used relationship counsellors before to overcome trust issues etc, if that’s something you would be open to. It’s easy for someone to say to leave him but when there’s babies involved, it definitely complicates things. I hope you can come to a decision that you’re happy with xx

She was hurt but I don’t think she was in a position to share those messages with you. That’s between the two of them. She most likely Is very much feeling like a love bombed rebound. There are always things we are not going to know about our partners and you were not together and no contact. He was probably hurting and healing too and unfortunately has messed someone else around in the process. I would try and draw a line if you have both agreed that this is what you want, and maybe seek some joint or separate relationship counselling as you have enough on your plate with pregnancy and baby on the way x

To be honest, you weren’t together. I know you may feel hurt that he was able to start seeing somebody else so quick but by the sounds of it, he was fully using her as a way of trying to get over you anyway. The instant cutting her out shows that. I think it’s sad she felt the need to show you texts between them when they were together because it’s not like those texts were sent behind your back and cheating. I’m not surprised he didn’t tell you everything said between them - I don’t think he should need to. This is a sad thing to say but I think men use women in different ways. You probably are a rarity of being somebody he genuinely has feelings for and she wasn’t so he probably didn’t feel much guilty over lieing to her by telling her he loved her etc. Having said all THAT, you can’t help the way you feel and not having trust causes bad relationships but time can help

I think she had no business sending those messages, I think she did that because she wants you to break up with him and get him back. Also, you were broken up, he was free to do as he pleased and doesn’t necessarily need to tell you everything about his relationships. But we don’t know what he lied to you about so can’t properly judge the situation. Sounds rocky though

Hmm, I'm sure you've posted on another platform before as this story sounds SO familiar. If that's the case, you did get alot of good advice then, so I'm not sure what more you expect today from here? Bottom line is, he was single and free to do as he pleased, he also wasn't obliged to tell you anything to be honest, it's his personal life which you didn't have entitlement to as it didn't concern you. He isn't seeing her now, so I don't see the issue? I feel bad for her in all fairness, as he clearly love bombed her and then dropped her like she was hot!