Wanting to get an abortion but partners won’t let me
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So he doesn’t want you to unalive your baby because you’ll go to hell but is threatening to unalive you and he will go where? To mount Olympus? Loool It’s a different one because personally, your body your rules but it’s not like 100% that way when you’ve built a family with someone and after 3 kids you would know the kind of man he is but still decided to tell him. Maybe seek professional counselling, he sounds like he definitely needs it if he’s ready to cut his nose to spite his face. Good luck hun xx
What on earth that’s horrendous he threatened to kill you and your family?! And he is saying that you’re the one that would go to hell for an abortion? He is really, really not okay, I hope your home-life is normally more stable than this because this reaction is not okay! I totally get it I’m about to have number 2 and DO NOT want anymore so I can only imagine how you’re feeling! At the end of the day it’s your body, your rights, you have to raise and care for them so it should ultimately be your choice what you do and I hope where you live medical people would support you. How you go about doing it whilst in that relationship is much tougher to answer but i’d advise you to build a support network and perhaps look for alternative living arrangements away from him as I doubt he’d get over it
He sounds like a loonie
It’s ur body ur choice sorry he can’t tell u want to do u need to do what ever u feel is better for u x
If you want to have an abortion and can’t have a child mentally or financially, I would definitely have an abortion in that situation no matter what my partner said as it’s what’s best for you and your situation, yes I am pro choice, bringing a child into the world when you are mentally not ready and your partner isn’t even supporting you or giving you a choice and trying to force you should not have even gone through his mind threatening you
If you’re going to go the “definitely getting an abortion “ route, please don’t tell that man. Take your children far away from him with no contact and get a restraining order because bruh. Anyone that can threaten to kill the mother of his 3 children or even kill anyone is absolutely insane
@Olivia agreed. Whatever you choose to do (I'd personally keep the baby for numerous reasons.), do so in tandem with a protection order! And get you and your kiddos to somewhere safe. Even if that's a shelter. Anyone who can threaten the lives of another, especially their wife and kids, has means to do so for real, and that is TERRIFYING. I've personally been in a very similar situation (at 17). Don't wait. Make moves now.
Just pack your stuff and go home to your family and book the abortion get it done. If he ask where the baby say it died and miscarriages are common in the early trimester . Also, take your kids with you and go to the police and request a restraining order. Tell the police how he has threatened to kill you and the kids. If you have any evidence provide that too.
You do what's best for you! Fuck him and his threats if you can't handle another baby then go ahead and get an abortion Then leave his horrible evil ass
Sounds like it’s time for you to plan an escape. Do not let him know your next move. Some men dont even give warning before killing their families and here he is openly threatening it. Abortion and leave without letting him know your next move. Act like the perfect wife up until you AND your kids successfully leave. I wish you luck
Thank you mamas😭😭
Girl run! No man not even ur Husband has the right to tell u wat to do with ur body. And then to threaten u and ur family because u don’t want to keep his child. Ummmm nope! If I were u I would get an abortion and tell him I miscarried. I’m not into lying to ur partner or being deceitful bt u in danger girl. Please think abt urself. Self preservation is importantly here. He is obviously not thinking abt u, so u need to think abt urself & put urself 1st. I wish u the best of luck on ur decision. Bt ur partner is no good.
That man has brain issues or something? Wow. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that
Your body your choice. Get the abortion. You don’t have to tell him if you don’t think you’ll be safe. Tell him you miscarried, even if he takes you to er/urgent care the abortion pill can’t be detected. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️
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If I didn’t want a baby I would have an abortion. The opinion of the person I with would absolutely not matter to me.
Take the abortion out of the question, he threatened to kill you and the kids. That’s not sane, that’s not safe. I personally couldn’t sleep in the same house as someone who threatened my children’s life and my own.
Have that abortion and tell that psycho it was a miscarriage.
Pardon me!? He will Kill you and your children if you get an abortion? wtf kind of messed up bs is that? Leave, and do it now.
Sounds like you need to get the hell out of that relationship and do whatever is best for you. Threatening to do that to you and your family warrants the authorities being involved or a restraining order IMO
Depending on how far along you are, id recommend you say okay not going to, but secretly you have an abortion. Then tell him the baby miscarried. If it's further along just say you went straight to the hospital regarding miscarriage procedure. Generally not a fan of such lies but this is a scary situation where he effectively is saying he will kill you and your earth side kids if you go ahead with the abortion. That said, withholding such a truth might eat you up. I think it might for me. Is he acting this way because he has super strong religious views on this matter? Or is this just all part of him just being an all around tosser ? If so, I think it's a sign you need to get out. So much easier said than done though. Sending you positive vibes. Truly hope 🙏 he is full of crap and would never intend harm upon you or his children. Such threats should be taken quite seriously. It's a really concerning thing he has stated.
You’re with someone who threatened to unalive you? Nah get rid! That’s crazy behaviour and it’s your body so it’s your decision
Adoption maybe???
Go to your nearest DV shelter. That is domestic violence.
Leave. This relationship is dangerous for you and your children. Please contact DA/DV charities ASAP.
You need to go to police. One thing I’ve been told by any survivors of domestic violence is that if a man says something believe it. You need to go far away from him. Do you have people who can help you?
Please do not have another child with a "man" that has spoken the words "I'll kill you and our family" to you. Leave, I'm begging you to leave. Family annihilators are real and they'll often tell you their plans before they do it. He's entitled to have his own opinions on abortion, he is not entitled access to his children when he threatens their lives over (and please no one come for me) a clump of cells who isn't born yet.
I’d love another baby but how can I bring another child into this world we struggle so much already