Baby at a wedding

Why not just go for the ceremony & food then leave around 6pm?

Have you asked if the baby can go? If he can’t I’m sure that the friend would understand especially if she has children herself that you don’t feel comfortable leaving him. Maybe offer to just going in the evening instead of the actual ceremony since she might not want the baby crying

We're in this scenario too, bride and groom have said family children only and I totally get it but we've had to say sorry but we can't come. We intend to possibly go to the evening for a couple of hours as they don't mind LO coming to the evening celebrations. I'm gutted to not be going to the wedding but baby comes first now, I've also missed out on her main hen do too but hopefully going along to the home hen but again will only be for a couple of hours. Any good friend will be understanding that your LO has to come first!

Personally if they won’t let “babes in arms” attend my response would be I would love to share your day however as I am feeding unfortunately I’m not going to be able to attend. Can’t wait to see the photos! That’s just me though. I get no kids, even we had no kids (except our toddler) but I’d never disallow babes on the boob. If that’s the rule then they should graciously accept peoples invite rejections based on it.

I wouldn’t go, personally especially whilst breastfeeding. If your friend can’t make an exception so your baby can be fed as he’s used to being then they probably don’t fully understand your situation.

Same situation here. It’s in different country and we almost bought tickets when my husband asked me if our 7 weeks old daughter is invited. I laughed because of course she is (she is part of me now, at the moment we are like one person obviously 😂), nope, she wasn’t invited. So I had to say that I won’t come. It’s one of my best friends but he doesn’t have kids and no one else has, so probably he doesn’t understand that I can’t leave her and fly to different country 😂 people are funny sometimes. But I completely understand that they don’t understand. Being a parent is full of sacrifices.

Have you spoken to the bride? Could there be a room at the venue for partner/family to care for baby so you can pop out to feed when needed? If they don't have kids they might not understand how it all works and that being away from baby at this age isn't easy.