What is your parenting style with your little ones?

i do gentle parenting with my 2 year old boy when we’re in public and he starts getting upset we leave. not “you’re being bad so we’re going home” but “i see you’re having a hard time let’s go for a walk” (i’m never alone with him so there’s always someone to stay at our table in a restaurant or with our cart at the grocery store etc.) and we just walk around, look at things and then when he’s calmed down we go back to whatever we were doing. when he throws things i’ll give it back to him and say “if you throw it again you’re all done” and then i stick to that. sometimes he stops throwing and sometimes he doesn’t and then i take it away and say “okay you’re all done now because you threw it”

Combination of the first two and FAFO 😂

Gentle parenting is just a new name for authoritative parenting. Enforce boundaries and use natural/logical consequences while supporting their emotions and helping them process them in productive ways.

@Brittany SAME😂

@Kapp 😂 ✊🏻

Gentle parenting done right is authoritative. Technically “gentle parenting” is not a parenting style. There's Permissive Parenting which a lot of people confuses with gentle parenting. Authoritarian parenting is punishment and parent driven.

It depends how you interpret the 2 really - I’ll never smack my children, I’d encourage them to feel their emotions and explain why they can’t behave a certain way but I’m also not a push over, I will set clear boundaries and expectations and put appropriate consequences in place (such as no desert or something lol)

I’m sweet, calm and gentle. I tell my kids “please” when making a request BUT best believe my kids know when I’m not fucking playing around. I will enforce the law because my children will not step all over me. If you disagree with my opinion and want to fight, go join the military.

Very strict, I don't mess around. My kids know that when they get in trouble, it's either time out or a spanking. I'm not afraid to spank kids and show I'm the one in charge. They don't rule the house. But I'm also very gentle when needed, caring, and loving to them. They both know this. And both know I love them

@Brittany hahaha same!

I gentle parent as long & far as my patience will take me. Tantrums in public.. my kid’s tantrums usually don’t last long so it’s the same as tantrums at home… I firmly tell him what he needs to do and he usually does after he gets his emotions out for a few minutes He doesn’t throw things, just jumps around and cries When he just won’t listen, I remind him of the consequences of not listening to his parents. Usually “do you want to go to time out?” is enough. If he keeps on, then he actually has to go to time out. If he continues after that I inform him he has lost screen time privileges for that day (or the next day if he’s already watched TV the day of) or take away toys, cancel trips to the park, etc. Then I just let him cry and feel his emotions. It’s sucks but he has to know there are consequences to his actions. If he comes for comfort I give him hugs or whatever he wants while reminding him why he lost xyz privileges, and not to behave that way again

So how many times do we all lose our shit? Id like to know to make sure I am not the only losing my mind while still be authoritative with my 2 yo.

What exactly is gentle parenting? If it is what i think it is then I believe it’s useless. They’ll just walk all over you and not take you serious. Kids need discipline and knowing what’s right and wrong. That doesn’t mean screaming at them but being firm and consistent

I don’t know how I’d classify our parenting. We have rules, boundaries and expectations that are age appropriate but I also try hard not to shout and be as loving and patient as I can be and I make sure I listen and hear my daughter out before being too authoritative.

My kids know they are adored but they also know actions have consequences and I’ll stand my ground (never spanking tho)

Spanking is hitting, no matter which way you justify it. I have no desire to teach my kids to hit, so i stick with gentle/authoritative parenting.

@Lia gentle parenting is authoritative parenting rebranded. Honestly it’s a dumb name because it makes so many people misunderstand it. They often mistake it with permissive parenting. Being consistent and enforcing boundaries is basically the whole foundation of it. But you just do so in a way that teaches them that all emotions are ok and how to process them in a productive way. Along with using natural/logical consequences as opposed to threats or punishments.

Ohh Oki makes sense thanks! @GMF