How to not lash out on baby ..

My favorite quote to remember is "they are not GIVING us a hard time. They are HAVING a hard time." And it goes from me being frustrated to my empathy taking over and wanting to help him feel better

When all else fails it's perfectly okay to gently place them into their crib or a safe place and walk away for a moment. Sometimes it's necessary to just take a moment to breathe (like box breaths) or scream into a pillow. Letting them cry in a safe place for a few minutes will not damage them and will allow you to come back to them in a better state. This is something that happens to every Mom and it's okay. Just remember(especially as they get to be toddlers) that apologizing and explaining that your struggling is good for them to see and learn.

It’s okay to put baby down in a safe place (bassinet, pack n play, etc.) for a moment and take a small break. There’s nothing wrong with walking away for a second as long as they are safe. Do you have support at home? Can someone take baby for you while you go on a walk or take a nap? I know it’s so hard. ❤️

I just remind myself that it will pass and me stressing out about while baby is having a hard time will just make it worse. And that I can always put baby down in a safe space for a few minutes so that I can breathe and calm down.

@Dev 🇺🇸🇮🇪 no it’s just me at home while my husband works. I don’t have any family or friend help so it’s literally just me doing it all. My husband works long hours so he gets back really late so hard forme to have any time alone unless it’s bed time:/

Oh, one thing my partner does is she puts in earphones when the baby won't stop crying while she calms herself down. She holds him and rocks back and forth or sometimes sets him down in bassinet and has a reset minute with herself. Then they have "make up cuddles" to help her with her mom guilt

I’m so so sorry to hear that. 💔 You need a break and rest. I also don’t have a lot of support in my area. But ive found some mom/baby groups that have given me a good community and people I trust. The other day I was so exhausted and emotional that the group leader held my baby for me while I sat next to her and just had a cup of coffee completely in silence. It seems small but it changed my week for the better. Please feel free to DM me and I can help you find some similar resources in your area. Community really changes things.

I don’t have any advice to give you but I wanted to say that you are not alone and there are millions of us who are not “doing anything to not lash out” its so random when it would happen and its normal to feel stressed about sleep. I verbally lashed out once or twice during to newborn trenches and later again at 6-9 months because of sleep regressions but my daughter is 2 and a half now and all i do now is the occasional “go to sleep🤨” and thats it😂 most nights are very easy now and i use to be so hopeless that I would never sleep well again. That being said, I am now 8 months pregnant sooo, Im about to be stressing again 🥲

@Brittany the fact that you are doing it all over again is very reassuring to me. It must really get better!