Do I let him see my baby?

My very recent ex partner still wants to be involved with my nearly 7 week old baby but not as my boyfriend, he isnt the biological dad but was there for my pregnancy birth and time in the NICU. Babies biological dad isn't involved at all what's the right decision?
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If he’s not the biological dad then it’s up to you and what you are comfortable with. What you must understand too that if he does participate in your child’s life then your baby may see him as a father figure so you need to ask yourself if that’s what you’d want or not. I don’t dispute that he wasn’t present during the times you listed but that’s a very small fraction compared to the rest of your child’s life xx

Hmm this is definitely a personal decision as you know him better but in my opinion I would not let him be involved at all. He is t the biological father and I wouldnt want him bonding with my baby if we aren’t together. It can also make it harder for you to move on. What if you meet a great man in the future and say you plan to get married then you very likely will need to cut that guy out of your lives anyway and that could cause some issues for your child who has bonded with him. I say cut him off completely

Totally admire him for wanting to step up and see him! He needs to realise though that baby may see him as dad and form that attachment and bond so the key things I’d be thinking about is will be be constant in his life and is he someone that you would like as a positive role model for your child?

In my opinion, if it was me, it would depend, not looking for answers if you don’t want to share but Why is he now your ex, did he do something? If yes and it was bad then I wouldn’t want it around my baby as it would show his true character But if your ex is a genuine good person over all (he sounds decent as he was there for you) I would let them be around but just be called by their name and introduced as a friend or something when they grow up and if he’s still around when the baby understands

@Jessica he just decided he didn't want to be with me that he doesn't want the relationship as my boyfriend anymore.

I think if he wants to be involved, then how long for? Does he want a lifelong commitment to your child? Will he be a consistent presence in your child’s life? What happens when you both move on and meet someone else? There’s lots to consider but fair play to him if he wants to step up x

@pippa that’s a hard one because sometime it’s like that, and can’t blame him for just not wanting to be in the relationship anymore even if it may be hard to hear but on the other hand why would he want a relationship to your baby when he has nothing to do with the baby, he may have grown an attachment to the baby while you was together maybe and doesn’t want to just leave the baby but didn’t want to stay together because of that but I don’t know have you asked why he wants a relationship with the baby? And what type of relationship he wants? It’s more a personal preference honestly and what you want for you and your baby, it may be best to move on but a people pleaser like me would give people a chance 😅

Definitely a decision for you to make but I'd be looking to know... what's his motivation? How well do you know him (consistency etc..)? Is he likely to stick around? As someone else said above what would the future look like if you both have new partners. I'd be more likely to lean towards no but hard without full circumstances and understanding of situation. Have you discussed this with family or friends and what do they think?

I personally wouldn't, if you'd been together years and the baby was a toddler and they'd already built that relationship then sure but baby is only 7 weeks old, I think it would be better to cut ties completely and both move on.

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